ALLURING SEXUAL VIOLENCE - BY DR. HESPEY

ALLURING SEXUAL VIOLENCE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Sexual violence is a serious public health and human rights problem with both short-term and long-term consequences on women's physical, mental, and sexual and reproductive health. Whether sexual violence occurs in the context of an intimate partnership, within the larger family or community structure, or during times of conflict, it is a deeply violating and painful experience for its survivor.

Sexual violence is defined as a sexual act committed against someone without that person’s freely given consent. Sexual violence includes the followings:

• Completed or attempted forced penetration of a victim

• Includes unwanted vaginal, oral, or anal insertion through use of physical force or threats to bring physical harm toward or against the victim.

• Completed or attempted alcohol or drug-facilitated penetration of a victim. This includes unwanted vaginal, oral, or anal insertion when the victim was unable to consent because he or she was too intoxicated (e.g. unconscious, or lack of awareness) through voluntary or involuntary use of alcohol or drugs.

Sexual violence isn't just a “women’s issue.” Men and women play a significant role in its prevention. Acknowledging sexual violence as a community-wide problem that impacts all persons regardless of gender is vital to preventing sexual assault.

The goal of sexual violence prevention is simple, and that's to stop it from happening in the first place. The solutions, however, are just as complex as the problem.
Preventing sexual violence requires comprehensive prevention strategies that address factors at each level of the social ecology—individual, relationship, community, and society.

Prevention or alluring of sexual violence needs to begin in early childhood and continue for a full lifetime. Teaching skills to prevent violence starts with learning empathy for others, communication skills and problem solving. It involves promoting healthy sexual behavior through sex education focused on respect for self and others, communication and consent.

Due to our concern for human, here are few list of steps in alluring sexual violence:

1. Stay alert and aware: The very first step for every form of danger avoidance is to Know where the exits are if you are in a building. In crowded places such as nightclubs, churches, mosques or event grounds, always let someone know where you will be. Do not go to isolated places in a building, if you must go, take a friend. Always turn around and look at whoever may be behind you.

2. Do not hide a spare key in obvious places such as under the mat, in a potted plant, in a fake rock or on the doorsill, etc: Residence hall students should keep their room keys in their possession at all times. Do not leave door keys hanging in locks or laying out in plain view of others. Even as a guy, I have mastered the habit of locking myself in my room when alone, just for privacies. So Always lock your doors after you enter your residence, hall, room/house/apartment and also when you leave.

3. Know your sexual limits: In your relationship, there is a great need to know your limits, that's because What you want (sexual violence avoidance) is critical, and you need to know what that is. Be assertive about your limits. You have the right to say “NO.” Communicate your desires with your partner. Communication leads to stronger and more fulfilling relationships.

4. Rape or sexual violence can occur when one or both individuals are under the influence of drugs or alcohol. So Set limits on the consumption of alcohol: Be aware of “Date Rape” drugs. The drugs (Rohypnol, GHB) are odorless and tasteless and can be easily slipped into soft drinks, juices or alcoholic drinks undetected. Do not leave your beverage unattended or accept something to drink from someone you do not know well or trust.

5. Don’t be afraid to “make waves” or hurt someone’s feelings if you feel they are threatening to you: In a relationship, if you feel threatened, it is far better to run and avoid being a victim of sexual violence. It is Better for you to have just few minutes/hours/days of social awkwardness and embarrassment than to go on with life in the trauma of sexual assault.

6. Do not wear skimpy, too attractive or tempting clothes: This is so important, as to the fact that rough dressing attract wrong deeds, so in order to be sexually safe, there is a great need to dress decently and be of godly character, characters which shows you to be of the most high God.

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EXCEPTIONAL MEN'S NEEDS IN MARRIAGE

EXCEPTIONAL MEN'S NEEDS IN MARRIAGE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

In a recent conversation with few female friends, there is this lady I asked that: what exactly do you think any guy will really desire from a you?

Her response happens to be what almost every lady already has in mind. She said: Once I am good in bed, able to cook delicious meals & good at my chores, he should be fine and his wants or needs shouldn't go beyond that.

But there is a missing truth in almost every lady, that only few of them possess it.

And that truth is that sex and food can never keep any man no matter how favourite they both are to him. Most Men could really be so secretive and won't tell you what their desires really are, but if you are a good observer and you are patient enough you can get deep into a man’s heart and understand what he wants.
When a man sees the woman he wants to get married to, there are some things he secretly desires that such a woman should bring to the marriage, of which he may not want to mention them.

The very first this I think every exceptional man needs is:

• COMPANIONSHIP: It is been observed that an exceptional husband isn't just a lover but also a friend. Staying friends and companions throughout the years requires that you find ways to make quality time to be together and have new experiences.
And most importantly, Marrying your best friend also means being mindful of how you talk to each other, not taking him for granted, and making small sacrifices to please each other.

Aside the fact that a man needs a companion he also need an

• AFFECTION: Though sex remains very important for most men, but the exceptional ones really want something more and that's Affection. Whether it's holding his hand in public, leaving a love message on his voicemail, or telling him you love him each & every opportunity you gets, it's an act of showing that you care about him, and this will definitely touch his heart.
Simple things you can do include telling him how much you love him, cheering him up when he's feeling doubtful, and telling him you're sorry when things go wrong. You can always go ahead and give him an unexpected hug.

• CARE:
What kills most relationships is that the ladies therein usually feels all cares beings to them. But the fact is that, These days men want to be pampered and cared for by their wife; they want a woman who would be sweet and romantic to them also. It is widely knowns that women openly desire this, but the truth is that men secretly desire it.
Men secretly desire their wife to want them; that is to value them and hold them in high esteem. They want their wife to be proud of them and to cherish them. This would really make them feel like a proud husband in marriage.

• RESPECT: One thing I come to understand & learn is that: Creating a loving and memorable marriage starts with respect right from the day of courtship. Some of those best ways a wife can show her husband that she loves and respects him is by:

- Actively listening to him when he talks, and not interrupting.
- Avoiding making any negative comments about his thoughts and opinions.
- Being considerate of his upcoming plans.
- Avoiding the use of "eye roll" when you disagree with him on anything
- Generally being positive, thankful, and considerate of his wants and needs.3.want their wife to be patient with them and tolerate them as well.

• UNDIVIDED LOVE & ATTENTION: Few weeks ago, I was actually discussing with a lady on how busy most men use to be with their work, the next thing she said was: "if he is too busy to accept my love, I will have to transfer them to my children". And in most homes, it is been noted that this is happening already. My findings shows that women’s love for their husbands tend to be divided after having kids, and the kids even have a greater percentage of the love than the husbands most times. Though, loving ones children is paramount, but neglecting ones husband is dangerous. Exceptional men want to be loved even after having children, they just won't ask for it.
Men also expect these things from the woman they are to marry. So be the best you can be, during courtship and extend your best to your marriage.

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TRAINING ON SEX: PRE OR POST MARRIAGE? - WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

TRAINING ON SEX: PRE OR POST MARRIAGE?

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

I bless the name of the Lord for who he really is, and for his ways of seeing the importance in his creations.

God created sexual activities as a means of reproduction, pleasure & showing love among couples. He created it to bring in intimacy & to bring to fulfillment each & every of his plan to mankind.

But the question is: Do we really see all these importance as they ought to be seen? Do we view all these benefits in the mirror of its creator?

Lying awake, I thought of what other reason (s) could be behind most broken or shattered homes, and the idea of sexual training & its practice came into my mind.

Now the real question is: should sexual training come before or after marriage?

Well, in a recent tutorial class, we were made to understand that "he who fail to plan has actually plan to fail", but does this include sexual training?

One thing we all need to know is that: "whatever we plan or train for, actually requires its implementation. And bringing it to God's laid down plan for sexual activities, it is meant to be fulfilled among the married ones. So why train for it when you aren't married?

This is why as a counsellor, I see the training of sexual activities before marriage as a tool that is harmful. This is true, because "for every training, there must be a practice". In a contemporary world, PRE marriage sexual training does nothing, but bring you closer to the risk of fornication and this in turn create boundary between you and your maker.

I have come across some couples whose partner is never satisfied sexually, and in the course of looking for satisfaction, he or she may need to step out to fulfil that desire and when questioned, one of those reasons that brought about the act usually comes from the act of PRE marriage training on sex which in turn led to adultery.

Post marriage training on sex is the best line of advice a better counsellor can ever give. One thing that is certain about post marriage training on sex is that: "you won't be trained by any other than your partner" & "you will both train each other to your satisfaction" & "through God's given grace, you will both fulfil God's plan by doing his will".

The act of PRE marriage training on sex was discussed in the bible and described as the act of "awakening love when it's not ripe".

Dear brethren & sister, it is always a thing of joy when each & every game is being played according to the rules guiding them. Play your game as expected of God.

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CONTROLLING YOUR ERECTION AS SINGLES - BY DR. HESPEY

CONTROLLING YOUR ERECTION AS SINGLES

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

The Act Of Being Able To Control Things Around Us Is The Visibility Of Strength, One Of Those Things That Talk About How Strong Or Weak We Are Is Our Personal Mode Of Attacking Whichever Situation We Find Our Self In.
Now, One Thing Most Singles Usually Feels Is That Talking About Erections Seems Embarrassing To Them. But The Fact I Need To To Understand As A Medical Practitioner Is That: Erection Is A Perfectly Normal Part Of Puberty, And Another Point Is That The Older You Get, The More Control You Should Have Over Them.
While You Probably Think It's Embarrassing, Erections Are A Fact Of Male Life And Partly Females (But Only Known To Them). According To My Study In Medical, Women’s Bodies Become Aroused In A Range Of Situations Too, However Women’s Arousal Isn’t Visible In The Same Way That Men’s Arousal Is Visible Via Their Erections.
Women Will Sometimes Experience Genital Warmth, Tingly Sensations Or Vaginal Lubrication When They Feel Aroused Or See Someone Attractive. They May Or May Not Notice These Signs, Though, Because, Again, These Signs Aren’t As Obvious As Men’s Erections But That Doesn’t Mean That They Don’t Occur. In Fact, It Would Be Very Difficult For A Male To Have Sexual Intercourse Without One!
But One Thing I Need You All To Always Note Is That: Your Mind Can Be Very Powerful In Controlling Your Erections.
And That Is Why I Have Decided To Give Out Few Tips On How To Be In Charge Of Your Erection And Not Your Erection Being In Charge Of You.
As Singles, The Following Tips Are Necessary:
1. Think Nonsexual Thoughts To Avoid Becoming Sexually Aroused: As A Single, Whenever The Thought Of Sex Fails To Leave Your Mind, It Will Be Very Difficult For You To Avoid Being Drown By Your Erection. So Instead, Think About Homework, Party, The Scripture Or An Upcoming Event That Excites You.
2. If You Wear Boxer Shorts And Have Frequently Occurring Erections, Consider Wearing Briefs Or Boxer-brief Underwear: These Tend To Fit Tighter And Could Help Hide Your Erection From Public View.
If Worse Comes To Worst, Just Stay Seated And Remain Calm Until The Erection Goes Away After Implementing The First Tip. If You Have To Get Off The Bus, Consider Untucking Your Shirt. Or Use Your Backpack Or A Textbook To Shield It.
3. Distract Yourself From Your Present Thought: We All Know That It's Much Easier Said Than Done, But If You Can Find A Way To Distract Yourself, You Are Halfway Home. Get Your Mind Focused On Something Important, Irreverent, Or Just Plain Weird. According To A Research I Just Did Recently, It's Being Discovered That It's Hard To Actually Think And Have An Erection At The Same Time.
Remember, It's Usually Mind Over Matter When It Comes To Erections. Find What Techniques Work Best For You While Hormones Are Ruling Your Body
Sometimes, Life Throws You A Curveball. You're In A Social Situation, Or With The Opposite Sex, And Before You Know It, There's A Rumbling In Your Loins. Fine, We've All Been There Before: It's Awkward As All Heck And The More You Try, The Worse It Seems To Get. But I Am Here Today To Tell You, Fret Not, Compatriot. An Unwanted Erection Will Bow To Your Will If You Know The Right Techniques — A Combination Of Mind And Body Control.
One Of The Major & Important Fruit Of The Spirit In The Bible Is The Spirit Of Self Control, When One Possesses This, One Is In Charge. Today, Try Seek For It If Not Gotten.
It Is Very Rewarding & Honouring To Be In Charge Of One's Life, Than Being Controlled By A Common Feeling. Control Your Erection, Don't Let It Control You.
God Bless.

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THE UNTERMINATED PREGNANCY - BY DR. HESPEY

A SHORT STORY & A LESSON FOR SINGLE GUYS/LADIES
THE UNTERMINATED PREGNANCY

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

It All Started About 3 Decades Ago.
Whereby A Woman Got Married As A VIRGIN To Her Beloved Husband, Their First Of Her Conceptions Was That Of A Baby Girl After Her Wedding, Few Years Later, This Same Woman Conceived For The Second Time In Her Marriage.
This Great Woman Never For Once Thought Of Terminating The Pregnancy. Do You Know Why?
Its Simply Because It Wasn't OUT OF WEDLOCK.
She Hereby Carried The Pregnancy With Her Throughout The 1st, 2nd & The 3rd Semester Without Any SHAME, Without REGRET, Simply Because It Wasn't OUT OF WEDLOCK.
With The Aid Of Her Husband, She Push And Pull Through All The Difficulties A Twin Pregnancy Could Bring.
She Finally Gave Birth To Her Baby.
But To Her Surprise, She Gave Birth To 2 Fabulous Kids On The 7th Of August Of That Year.
Wow, What A Day It Was For The Family Of The Oderindes.

My Dear Single Guys & Ladies,
When Pregnancy Comes In, In WEDLOCK, There Is NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT.
NO SHAME ATTACHED.
NO REGRET.
This Is Because It Is In WEDLOCK.
It Is Wanted, Just As The WILL OF GOD For Every Marriage.
Stay Clear From Premarital Sex, Choose Sexual Purity.
Kudos To My Dad.
Kudos To My Mum.
They Both Brought Blessings To The World.
Rest On Mum.
Rest On Dad.
We Miss You!!!
Happy Birthday to RACHKENNY & DR. HESPEY Once Again.

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A SICK MARRIAGE & ITS CURE - BY DR. HESPEY

A SICK MARRIAGE & ITS CURE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

The Thought Of Something Falling Sick And The Need For Revival Came To My Mind. As A Student, Whose Examination Is About To Start In Few Days, I Thought About How Being A Failure Usually Thrust Up In Students, Of Which I Discovered That Avoiding Being A Failure As A Student Requires The Habit Of Hard Study Which Is The Only Cure To Academic Failure.
Bringing This Perspective Into Marriages, I Discovered That Most Married Couples These Days Find It So Hard To Solve Issues Within Their Marriage, Instead Of Finding Solution (S) To Its Defects, Some Choose Break Up As The Best Option, Meanwhile It's Never The Best.
Dear Married Couples, Though I Am Not Married Yet, But The Perspective Of Being Sick & Being Cure Came Into My Mind And God's Faithfulness Dip In Thoughts Of Marriage Into Me.

SO TO THIS EFFECT, I BRING TO YOU THE CURE OF A SICK MARRIAGE, LABELLED THE FIVE "R" TO CURE A SICK MARRIAGE.

1. RECOGNISE That You Have The Power To Redefine The Marriage. I See Recognition As An Assurance Of Victory.
Even If You Feel Like A Victim, You Play A Role In Setting Up What Is And Isn't Acceptable In Your Marriage.

As A Student, When I Stop Assimilating Academically, The First Thing I Did Was That I Trace It Backward To The Point When It Start And How It Began, And From There, I Was Able To Move On. So I Believe That For Every Crisis, There Must Be A Source, Which Means It Actually Started From A Point. So To Get Them Settled, RECOGNISE The Source.
2. One Of Those Cure Each & Every Marriage Need Is That: In Any Circumstances Of Your Marriage, Learn To Believe It's Never Too Late To RECONCILE.
It Is Not Too Late:
3. This Statement Is Actually Coming In A View That You Can Rescue Your Marriage, RECONCILE And RECONNECT With Your Partner.
It May Not Be Easy, But Here's My Advice On Where To Begin.
Stop The Ego-driven Power Struggle. I See Ego As A Foundation Leaker.
Don't Be A "Right-fighter."
Destroying Your Marriage So You Can Be Right In Every Argument Doesn't Worth It, So Be Very Careful In This Aspect.
Make A Promise To Work On Your Marriage Every Single Day, Not Just During The Bad Times, But Also During The Good Ones. This Bring A Fulfilling & Lasting Unionism.
4. Make A Plan Together To RENEGOTIATE The Marriage. I See RENEGOTIATION As A Foundation RENOVATOR.
Even Patterns That You've Had For 20years Or More Can Actually Changed If You Put This In Practice. For The Fact That You've Been In That Sick-marriage State For Years Doesn't Mean It Has No End.
5. Your Vows Are About COMMITMENT, Not Method. I See COMMITMENT As The Major Key For A Successful Marriage, With A Long Lasting Partnership.
If Perhaps The Methods You've Been Using Aren't Working, It's Time To Try New Ones.
Choose:
RECOGNITION
RECONCILIATION
RECONNECTION
RENEGOTIATION &
RECOMMITMENT.
May The Good Lord Strengthened Every Home & May He Cure All Sick-marriages In Jesus Name!!!

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MASTURBATION: VINDICATIVE OR IMPLICATIVE? - BY DR. HESPEY

MASTURBATION: VINDICATIVE OR IMPLICATIVE?

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Masturbation Is Actually An Act Of Toying Or Playing With One's Organs To Bring Out Sexual Urges And It Is A Common Activity. It’s A Natural And Safe Way To Explore Your Body, Feel Pleasure, And Release Built-up Sexual Tension. In My Recent Case Study, I Discovered It Occurs Among People Of Different Genders, And Races.
The Real Truth Is That There Are Actually No Physically Harmful Side Effects Of Masturbation. However, Masturbation Can Be IMPLICATIVE On Your Relationships And Everyday Life. Other Than That, Masturbation Is A Fun But Unhealthy In Some Aspect Of Medical & Religiously.

Through My Counselling Years, I Have Come Across Many People Who Think That Masturbation Is Really Nothing To Worry About, But In Real Sense, It Can Be IMPLICATIVE By Becoming A Bad Addiction.

Now Let's Take It To A Case Study Of A Drunkard Who Fools Himself That He Is Not Addicted To Alcohol, People Who Are Addicted To Masturbation Will Deny The Fact That They Have Become Addicts.

Recent Brain Science Research Gives Us New Insight Into This Complex Topic. From Your Brain's Perspective, Masturbation Is Literally "Self-sex" Which Can Create Three Challenges:

1. The Neurochemical Rush Triggered By Sexual Experiences Can Turn Masturbation Into A Convenient Drug Of Choice For Pleasure, Escape, And Self-medication From Loneliness, Boredom, Insomnia, Negative Emotions, And The Stresses Of Life. Over Time, The Brain's Highly Efficient Powers Of Habit-formation Turn Masturbation Into A Chemical Dependency Which Is Termed "Addiction".

2. Masturbation Interferes With Healthy Sexuality In A Marriage. The Same Neurochemicals That, During Marital Intimacy, Enhance Your Relationship With Your Spouse, Redirect Your Desire Toward Your Self Rather Than Your Spouse. Over Time, "Self-sex" Becomes Your Brain's Preferred Method For Achieving Sexual Gratification.

3. Masturbation Is Contrary To God's Plan For Sexuality To Be Self-giving With Love. As An Act Of Self-gratification Focused On Lust, Masturbation Cheats Both The Individual And The Spouse Out Of The Powerful Potential God Built Into Human Sexuality. Habitual Masturbation Can Lead A Person To Look At All Of Life From A Selfish And Lustful Point Of View.

Other Deduced Implicative Part Of Masturbation Gotten From Those Who In Time Past Were Victims Are As Follows:
Headache
Dizziness
Nervousness
Pain In The Shoulders And Sides
Pain In The Back And Legs
Rheumatism - Inflammation Or Pain In Muscles, Joints, Or Fibrous Tissue
Loss Of Appetite Leading To Weight Loss
Fluid Retention (Edema) – Weight Gain
Insomnia
Tiredness
Great Exhaustion After Exercising
Sallow Countenance (Your Face Looks Like You Have The Flu – That Sick, Dead Look)
Loss Of Memory And Sight
Loss Of Concentration And Focus (Brain Fog)
Increased Risk Of Cancer
Abrasions Or Swelling Of The Penis
Difficulty In Performing Real Sexual Intercourse Because Of A Weak Erection
Premature Ejaculation
Semen Leakage
Reduced Orgasm
Loss Of Sex Drive Towards The Opposite Sex.
Not Only Will Your Body Be Affected, But Your Mind Too Will Also Be Tampered With.

So Having Known All These IMPLICATIONS, Now Lets Get Down To The Way Out Of All These Implications.
The Following Are Ways To Avoid This Act.

1. Talk To Someone You Trust.

The Very First Thing Is To Discuss With Someone Of Better Reputation. If You Feel Like It’s Becoming Hard For You To Avoid Masturbation, Try Talking To Someone You Trust And Who Can Help You. These People Can Include Your Church Pastor, Counsellor, Close Relative Or Friend. It Is Certain That You May First Feel Like It’s Embarrassing But At The End, You Will Find Help And Avoid Getting Addicted To Masturbation.

2. Don’t Watch Pornography:

Watching Porn Can Easily Lead To Masturbation. Instead Of Watching This Diminishing Videos, Try Watching Something Comical Or Non-sexual Related Content.

3. Avoid Being Alone:

Being Alone Can Prompt Ideas Of Masturbation Especially If You Have Tried It Once. Having People Around You Will Stop You From Having Such Ideas. Always Try To Be In The Public And With Time You Will Be Able To Completely Stop Masturbation.

4. Avoid Reading Articles Which Suggest Masturbation Is Good Or Not Harmful:

Reading Such Articles Will Make You Feel Like You Are Doing The Right Thing And Thus, You Will Easily Get Addicted To Masturbation. Instead, Read The Articles Suggesting That Masturbation Is Bad And Very Harmful And Can Destroy Your Relationship With God. This Way You Will Not Even Think Of Masturbation Let Alone Doing It.

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THE RELEVANT HUSBAND/FATHER - BY DR. HESPEY

THE RELEVANT HUSBAND/FATHER

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

First Of All, Before I Start This Write Up, I Will Like To Appreciate All The Wonderful Husband/Fathers Out There. I Bless The Name Of The Lord For Their Lives & How They've Been The Best Among Their Peers.
Now Let's Start, One Thing That Comes To My Mind As The Father's Day Celebration Of The Nigerian Baptist Convention Comes Closer Is That: "What Really Is Being A Husband/Father Means"? "What Significant Role Is The Role A Husband/Father Plays In A Home"?
That Is Why I Am Coming Up With This Write Up. In My Course Of Study, I Discovered That Many Youths Rush Towards Being A Husband, But Neglect Being A Father & They Know Not Is Relevancy.
What You Must Note As A Single Guy Is That: Being Called A Husband/Father Isn't Just A Title For A Male. It Is A Name That Carries Responsibilities. And One Major Fact Is That Being Called A Husband/Father Isn't Just The Ability To Impregnate A Lady.
In A Just Concluded Research Of Mine, I Learnt That Being A Husband And A Father Are Perhaps Two Of The Most Important Roles Any Male May Have In Life, So It's Completely Normal To Want To Put Your Best Foot Forward.
Husband Means Houseband Which Comes In For Of A Circle Or A 4 Pillar Apartment; A Husband/Father Is A Band That Binds The House Together.
And According To Godliness, A Godly Husband Is A Priest, A Provider And A Protector. As A Priest A Relevant Husband/Father Subjects Himself To Christ And Opens The Word And Leads His Family To Christ Through Daily Family Worship At The Family Altar.
Being A Relevant Husband/Father Is Never Easy, Especially For Those Outside Christ's Dwelling Place.
To Be A Relevant Husband/Father, The First Thing You Need Is God. Then After That, Start By Showing Consideration For Your Family And Learning To Communicate With Them More Effectively. Remember That To Take Good Care Of Your Family, You Must Take Care Of Yourself, So Implement Positive Lifestyle Choices That Support Your Health And Well-being, Too.
Just Yesterday, In A Public Bus On My Way To Lagos, A Man Beside Me Said: "What's My Relevancy, If I Claim To Be A Father, But Doesn't Have Time For My Home"?
He Works In Lagos, But Resides In Ogbomoso Because Of His Family, He Travels On Daily Basis & Still Meet His Family's Need.
So To Be Relevant As A Husband/Father, You Need To Show Interest In Your Spouse And Kids No Matter What You Go Through. It’s Common For Many Families To Fall Into A Common Pattern Of Only Discussing Things Like The Kids’ Grades, Bills, Household Repairs, And Who’s Picking Up Whom From School Or Anywhere, You Need To Strike A New Chord When Communicating With Your Spouse And Kids By Adding Some New Topics To The Conversation Asides What's Compulsory For You As A Husband/Father.
Another Thing Is That, To Be A Relevant Husband/Father, You Must Also Be A Role Model And Practice What You Preach & Teach. But Don’t Expect Your Children To Follow Your Advice If Your Own Behavior Goes Against It. Hold Yourself Accountable For Meeting The Same Standards That You Set For Your Kids And Family. What I Have Come To Learn Is That, A Relevant Husband/Father Doesn't Lie In Front Of Their Kids. What They Do In Every Case Is To Show Honesty & Be Straightforward.
Few Bible Passages Lay Emphasis On The Role Of A Relevant Husband/Father.

According To The Book Of 1 Corinthians 7:1-40, The Deduced Part Of Relevancy Says: "A Relevant Husband/Father Is A Man Who Is Legally Married, And Take Care Of The Conjugal Rights Of His Family.

1 Timothy 3:2 Spokes Of A Relevant Husband/Father As An Overseer That Must Be Above Reproach, The Husband Of One Wife, Sober-minded, Self-controlled, Respectable, Hospitable And Able To Teach.
So To Be Relevant As A Man, You Have Lots Of Role To Play & There Are Rules Guiding Your Relevancy. Be The Right Comforter & Supplier For Your Home, That's Where Your Relevancy Starts As A Husband/Father.
I Pray The Lord Will Help Us All.
Happy Father's Day In Advance.

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MULTIPLE EX AVOIDANCE - BY DR. HESPEY

MULTIPLE EX AVOIDANCE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Let Me Start This With A Brief Definition Of The Word "EX".
I Define "EX" As An Act Of Either Planned Or Unplanned Break Up That Occurs In A Courting Relationship And Even In Marriage.
But The Question That Comes To My Mind After Any Break Up Is That: MUST WE HAVE MULTIPLE EX BEFORE SETTLING FOR ONE?

For Those Who Can Understand This Write Up, Get It Clear: IT IS NOT MANDATORY FOR YOU TO HAVE AN EX OR MULTIPLE EX.

As A Young Counsellor, I Feel Hurt A Lot Whenever I See A Good Relationship Taking Another Dimension, But Just As I Was Ruminating On It, I Realized That Most People Only Knows How To Give Birth To Relationships, But Doesn't Know How To Keep Such Relationship Even After Lots Of Effort Towards It’s Creation.
Therefore, I Think It Is Necessary For Me To State Ways On How You Can Avoid Having Multiple Ex.
As A Guy If You Love A Lady & You Are So Sure You Are Been Led By The Spirit And The Love Is Genuine, Then Maintaining It Shouldn’t Be A Problem For You.
According To My Research, One Of The Major Reason That Brings About Having Multiple Ex Is The LACK OF THE SPIRIT OF DISCERNMENT. When You Lack That Spirit, You Will Never Know What's Going To Work Out Well For You And What's Not Going To Work Out Well.
So The Very First Thing Is To Be Able To Know What God's Will Are Concerning Yourself As A Whole.

SECONDLY, If You Must Avoid Having Multiple Ex, Then PRACTICE SEXUAL ABSTINENCE, Avoid The Act Of Pressurizing Your Partner To Do Things That Are Against Their Will. Let’s Assume You Are The Rough Guy Who Want Sex Before Marriage, And She Doesn’t, Its Certain You Will Lose Her. Losing Her Has Now Given Your Chances Of Having Multiple Ex A Grade.
And For Every Good Relationship, The Act Of Listening Must Be Cultivated, When You Fail To Listen, The Chances Of The Grade Keep Multiplying And With Time, It Will Start Rising Exponentially.

THIRDLY, I Believe Everybody Knows That Communication Is Very Essential, It Goes A Long Way To Remind That Guy/Lady, That You Are Thinking About Him/Her. But What Do You Think Will Happen When Communication Cease? So Be So Sure You Finalise How You Both Prefer Your Communication Skills To Be Handled.

FOURTHLY, The Act Of Being Too Demanding & Ruling Is Likely To Bring A Stop To Your Relationship. Avoid Allowing Your Will To Be Done At All Time. A Relationship Where You Want Your Words To Always Rule Will Diminishes The Love You Are Both Sharing, And As Time Goes On, If Not Taken Care Of, You May Lose Him/Her And Have Another (Which Means She Now Become An Ex).
Do You Know That As A Guy When A Lady You Claim You Love Sees You As An Opposer Of Her Goals & Objectives, This Can Bring A Stop To The Love She Have For You And Hereby Increases Your “having Multiple Ex” Grades. A Girl You Claim To Love Needs To Be Accepted Whichever Way She Is, Just Like The Word Of One Of My Inspirer (Revd. Sam Adeyemi) He Said And I Quote; You Are Actually Created To Change Some Things. I Want You To Note The Words “Some Things” Which Means You Are Not Being Created To Change Everything. So Bringing The Ability Of “Things Changer” To Your Relationship May Rule Out That Relationship.

To My Beautiful Queens & Princesses, You In Turn Have A Great Part To Play In Maintaining A Relationship, If The Love Is Real.
Lots Of Respect From A Lady To A Guy Keeps A Relationship & Extend Its Existence, If Probably You Notice He Is Angry, Don’t Be In A Hurry To Find Out What Is Wrong With Him At That Instance, Give It Time, Especially If He Is The One Without Temperament.
The Major Thing I Want You To Know Is That: A Nagging Girlfriend Will End Up Being A Nagging Wife, All Sort Of Nagging Won’t Lead Any Relationship Rightly, It Will Just Bring A Stop To It If Not Controlled.

The Message Above About The Ability To Change Things Includes You Ladies As Well, Just As It Won’t Be Of Any Help To A Guy Who Want To Change One Thing Or The Other From His Girlfriend, It Won’t Be Of Any Help Either To Any Lady Of Such Too.

As A Lady, When You Fail To Contribute Positively To Your Relationship, It May Lead To Break Up And Exs Will Start With Both Sides. Contribution To Relationship Isn’t All About Money, What I Believe Is That Words Alone Can Keep Things Going.

And Lastly: This Is Meant For Both My Kings & Queens.
Many Still Don’t Know Or Fail To Recognise The Presence Of Prayer In All Things Until Those Things Go Wrong. When Things That Can Bring The Issue Of “having Multiple Ex" Comes You Way, You Can Always Do The Fightings In Prayers.
As A Guy/Lady, You Aren’t Suppose To Fight And Argue With Your Partner, The Next Thing You Ought To Do Is To Pray For Him/Her, Pray For His/Her Heart And Every Angle Of His/Her Life That Needed To Be Changed.
Above All Put God In The Center Of Your Relationship, And There Is No Way You Can Lose.

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READINESS FOR MARRIAGE - BY DR. HESPEY

READINESS FOR MARRIAGE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

As A Student, I See Great Need For Preparation Against Anything, Preparation For Examinations Is An Act That Get One Ready For A Better Result And Pace In The Future.

So Bringing This Perspective Into Marriage, The Requirements Of Marriage Seems Missing In Most Of The Singles That Rush Towards Marriage This Days. Marriage Require Patience & Careful Readings Before It Can Be Walked Up To.
Marriage Requires Lots Of Patience, And Preparation Is A Well Known Equipment For Marriage As Well.

Like One Of My Saying: “PREPARATION & ADEQUATE CARE Makes Things Work The Way They Ought To.
This Is Why When It Comes To Marriage, You Don’t Have To Be Ready Before You Start Preparing For Marriage, And In Fact In A Real Sense, You Don’t Need To Be In Any Relationship Before You Start Preparing For Marriage.

As A Lady, The Hope That The Act Of VIRTUOUS CHARACTER CULTIVATION Gives Or Keep In Hidden For Your Proposed Marriage Is Never Limited.
So If You Are Actually Looking Up To A Day Of Marriage, You Need This Moment To Start Learning How To Be Submissive To Your Dad, Elders And Authorities, Not Because You Have Something To Collect From Them, But Because You’ll Need To Submit To Your Husband After Marriage.
You Need To Cultivate The Habit Of Waking Up Early, This Should Be So, Because What I Have Come To Learn Is That A Good Wife Is A Early Riser. And Most Importantly, The Key To A Good & Successful Marriage Doesn’t Just Have To Do With Looks Alone, It Covers Good Skills In Keeping A Home Through Betterment In Chores & The Nurturing Of Kids, Multi Task And How To Prepare Different Kind Of Food.

I Am Not Married Yet, But The Key That I See Which Holds Most Successful Marriages Around Me Is That The Women Are So Virtuous To The Extent That They Know What Gives Joy To Their Home And They Do It. They Learnt That What Makes A Wife Is Not Just The Wedding Ring. But How She Deals With Things Around Her And Keep Her Home.

Remember The Bible Says “He Who Finds A Wife… Proverb 18:22” Not He Who Finds A Lady Or Woman.
What Every Man Is Looking For Is A Wife, And Wives Are Made From Their Mothers’ House Not In A Man’s House.
So Learn And Prepare For That Man That Will Find You.

And To The Men,
You Also Need To Prepare And Learn.
First Of All, Learn How To Be A Good Brother, Friend, Husband, Father & Leader. Because You Weren’t Created To Have Dominion Over A Woman, And The Point Is That No Woman Wants A Ruler For A Husband But A Leader.
So Cultivate The Habit Of Giving Out Joy Instead Of Sorrow And Be A Cheerful Giver, Because This Doesn’t Limit Joy In Anyway. What Being A Cheerful Giver Does Is That: It Opens More Doors Of Blessings.

As A Man, You Need To Be Resourceful & Equipped. Learn How To Keep Your Home All Day Long By Investment If Possible.
And Lastly, All Things Without The Involvement Of The Creator Isn’t & Can Never Be Complete. So For A Happy Marriage In The Future, Start Now By Building A Very Close Relationship With God And Be Sensitive To Hear From Him When He Speaks.
Like The Common Saying: “If You Rush In, You Gonna Rush Out”, So Never Rush In For What Requires Adequate Preparation In Order Not To Rush Out Of The Divine Making Process Of God.

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REASONS FOR SINGLENESS - BY DR. HESPEY

REASONS FOR SINGLENESS

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

"Reasons For Singleness" Is An Article That Comes To My Mind Few Days Ago When Ruminating Most Of The Reasons Few Singles Gives For Not Being In Any Relationship.

It Is Certain That When You Do The Wrong Thing At The Right Time, The End Result Will Be Wrong. And When The Right Thing Is Being Done At The Wrong Time, The Result Can Never Be Right.

So Regarding Relationships, I Discovered That When One Start A Relationship At The Wrong Time, It May Or May Not Be Positive And This Will Likely Affect The Period Of Courtship & Later The Marriage.

So Being Single To Some Extent Seems To Be Very Lovely.

But Before I Proceed, Let Me Define Courtship.
I See Courtship As A Period For Both Man And Woman To Get To Know One Another For A Period Of Time, It Is This Period That Precede Marriage Where Both The Man & Woman Make Use Of The Opportunity To Figure Out If The Relationship Is Going To Work Between Them.
Through Lots Of Findings & Questioning I Have Seen Courtship Extending For A Period Of 3, 4, 5, 6 Years And Above And At The End Of It All, There Was No Joining Of Hands In Marriage.

For Those Who Have It In Mind To Ask, Those Who Have Been Asking & Wanting To Know The Reason Why I Am Still Single, Here It Is.
Though Reasons For Being Single Ought To Be Personal, But As A Relationship Counsellor. I See No Reason Keeping It When I Can Vividly See Lots Of Lessons Other Singles Can Learn From My Reasons.

One Of The Major For Most Singleness Is: To Avoid Long Term Relationship, Long Term Relationship Can Actually Hold One Back—from One's Dreams, One's Potential And One's Goals.
It Can Become Easy To Hide Out In Long-term Relationships; Forgoing Your Independence And Drive To Reach Your Potential And Take Risks In Going For Your Dreams.
Your Partner May Become Stagnant As Well.
As Far As I Am Concerned About Women, I See Them As An Adorable Image That Ought To Be Taken Care Of & Not To Be Taken For Granted.

When It Comes To Relationship Women Seems Not To Have That Much Time On Their Side In Courtship And Should Not Be Held Down By Unfulfilled Promises By Men.
If The Courtship Could Not Go According To Plan, Women Suffers The Most For It After Long Term Relationship In Which, She Would Have Been Used And Resulting In Dumping.
Staying In Long Term Courtship Without Actual Date And Plan For Your Marriage Yet Has Other Side Of The Story Which I Am Not Ready To Be A Failure At.
A Long Courtship Going Nowhere Strips A Woman Of Her Dignity And Self-esteem, Which Should Still Be Maintained.

My Dear Singles, Never Mourn Your Singleness.
Singleness Isn't A Sin Neither Is Singleness A Disease.
Never Allow Anyone To Make You Inferior.
You Can Be Single And Successful.

Singleness Ought Not To Seen As A Problem, And Get This Sure, Marriage Is Not Anybody's Right, Because It Is God That Grants Any Of Them As A Gift.
Another Thing Is That We All Are Not Created For Marriage, But Marriage Was Created For Us.
You Will Not Not Be Sent Out Of Heaven Simply Because You Are Not Married, But It Is For Sure That Marriage Can Take You To Hell If Marry The Wrong Person And Marrying The Wrong Person Is As A Result Of Doing Things In The Wrong Time.
Scientists And Phycologists Has Proof To Us That Marrying The Wrong Person Can Reduce The Life Of Someone By 62%, So It Is Better To Be Single Hoping To Be Married Than To Be Married Hoping To Be Single Again.

So My Dear Singles, Relax And Take Your Time, Use Your Singleness For Your God As Far As This Period Of Singleness Is Concern. And Wait For The Right Time.

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GIVING FITNESS TO YOUR MARRIAGE - BY DR. HESPEY

GIVING FITNESS TO YOUR MARRIAGE

EPISODE II

SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER AS COUPLES OUGHT TO

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

I Believe You Probably Have Fond Memories Of When You Were First Dating Your Loved One.
Everything May Have Seemed New And Exciting, And You May Have Spent Hours Just Chatting Together Or Coming Up With New, Exciting Things To Try.
However, As Time Goes By, Children, Demanding Jobs, Long Commutes, Different Hobbies And Other Obligations Can Make It Hard To Find Time Together.
It’s Critical For Your Relationship, Though, To Make Time For Yourselves.
If You Don’t Have Quality Time, Communication And Understanding Start To Erode.
Simple Ways To Connect As A Couple And Rekindle Love Commit To Spending Quality Time Together On A Regular Basis.
Even During Very Busy And Stressful Times, A Few Minutes Of Really Sharing And Connecting Can Help Keep Bonds Strong.
This Is What I Mean By Compatibility, Find Something That You Enjoy Doing Together, Whether It Is A Shared Hobby, Dance Class, Daily Walk, Or Sitting Over A Cup Of Coffee In The Morning.
Try Something New Together.
Doing New Things Together Can Be A Funny Way To Connect And Keep Things Interesting.
It Can Be As Simple As Trying A New Restaurant Or Going On A Day Trip To A Place You’ve Never Been Before.
Couples Are Often More Fun And Playful In The Early Stages Of A Relationship.
However, This Playful Attitude Can Sometimes Be Forgotten As Life's Challenges Or Old Resentments Start Getting In The Way.
Keeping A Sense Of Humour Can Actually Help You Get Through Tough Times, Reduce Stress, And Work Through Issues More Easily.
Focus On Having Fun Together, Think About Playful Ways To Surprise Your Partner, Like Bringing Flowers Or A Favourite Movie Home Unexpectedly.
Learn From The “PLAY EXPERTS” Together.
Playing With Pets Or Small Children Can Really Help You Reconnect With Your Playful Side.
If It’s Something You Do Together, You Also Learn More About Your Partner And How He Or She Likes To Have Fun.
Make A Habit Of Laughing Together Whenever You Can.
Most Situations Are Not As Bleak As They Appear To Be When You Approach Them With Humour.
Learning How To Play Again, A Little Humour And Playful Interaction Can Go A Long Way In Relieving Tense Situations And Helping You See The Brighter Side.
If You’re Feeling A Little Rusty, Learn More About How Playful Communication Can Improve Your Relationship, And For Fun Ways To Practice This Skill.
Be A Manager In Your Relationship And Manage It Well.

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SETTLING FOR THE LESS - BY DR. HESPEY

SETTLING FOR THE LESS

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

"SETTLING FOR THE LESS" Is An Act Of Going For Something Below Your Standard Or Something That Is Far Low To What You Deserve. Settling Below What God Wanted For You.

I Have Been Pondering So Hard On The Reason(s) Why Most Youths Got Married And Later See Themselves In The Wrong Marriage.

So In A Case Study This Past Week, I Have Come To Discover Few Things That Brings About SETTLING FOR THE LESS And What SETTLING FOR THE LESS GIVES IN RETURN.

One Of Those Things That Bring About Settling For The Less Is IMPATIENT And LACK OF SELF CONTROL. In Every Human Who Lack Patience, There Will Always Be An Urge To Move More Than The Way They Are Destined To Move At An Instance Even by Their Maker.

But Lack Of Self Control Is The Major Key Of Which I Discovered That Is The Source Of Settling For The Less.

This Is So, Because In My Case Study This Past Week, I Came Across Three Different Guys With Some Set Of Ladies Who Are Their Wives. Seeing Them, I Felt This Isn't What They Deserve To Get Married To. But These Set Of Guys Settle For The Less Because They Couldn't Control Themselves.

Their Settlement Came In Through The Act Of FORNICATION, After Which They Became Entangled To A Lady Below Their Standard Each.

SETTLING FOR THE LESS Is Very Harmful In Marriage. In My Findings, This Is One Of The Major Reasons Why Some Men Commit Adultery. They Do So When They Discovered That What They Have Didn't Deserve Them Or That They Deserve More Themselves.

They Commit Adultery When They See Someone More Beautiful Than What They Have At Home.

So My Dear Singles, Take Your Time And Be Very Sure Of What You Want Before You Settle For It.

Know And Be Sure That This Is The Person You Are Ready To Live With Till The End.

Gain Self Awareness About Your Choice Of Partner And Their Willingness To Meet Your Emotional And Personal Needs During Marriage.

To Avoid Settling For The Less, You Need To Stop Putting Yourself Down And Stop Comparing Yourself To Other Friends Who Seems To Have Met A Partner Of Their Dream. Accept The Fact That Fear Of Being Single Is Normal.

So My Dear, Be Focus, Focus On Finding Your Passion Rather Than Finding A Life partner And Embrace Some Of The Pleasures Of Being Single. This Means, Instead Of Going And Looking Around The World For Someone You Love, Use Your Precious Time And Search For Something You Cherish.

Stay Faithful And Hope For God's Best.

I Say Again:
Take Your Time And Be Patient.
You Deserve The Best.

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GIVING FITNESS TO YOUR MARRIAGE - BY DR. HESPEY

GIVING FITNESS TO YOUR MARRIAGE

EPISODE I
KEEP PHYSICAL INTIMACY ALIVE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Through Few Interactive Section With Married Couples, I Have Come To Understand The Significant Role TOUCHING Plays In Any Intimacy, Especially When Done In The Right Aspect, Which Is Marriage.
Touch Is A Fundamental Part Of Human Existence.
Studies On Infants Have Shown The Importance Of Regular, Loving Touch And Holding On Brain Development.
These Benefits Do Not End In Childhood.
What I Have Learn Is That Life Without Physical Contact With Others Is A Lonely Life Indeed.
An From My Studies As A Medical Practitioner, It Has Been Discovered That Affectionate Touch Actually Boosts The Body’s Levels Of Oxytocin, A Hormone That Influences Bonding And Attachment.
In A Committed Relationship Of Marriage Between Two Adult Partners, Physical Intercourse Is Often A Cornerstone Of The Relationship.
However, Intercourse Should Not Be The Only Method Of Physical Intimacy In A Marriage.
Regular, Affectionate Touch, Holding Hands, Hugging, Or Kissing Is Equally Important During Marriage.
So You Need To Be Sensitive To What Your Partner Likes. While Touch Is A Key Part Of A Healthy Marriage, It’s Important To Take Some Time To Find Out What Your Partner Really Likes.
Unwanted Touching Or Inappropriate Overtures Can Make The Other Person Tense Up And Retreat, And That's Exactly What You Don’t Want. So Take Some Time And Show Some Love, Be Convalescent With Your Partner.

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GIVING FITNESS TO YOUR MARRIAGE - BY DR. HESPEY

GIVING FITNESS TO YOUR MARRIAGE

INTRODUCTORY EPISODE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

FITNESS Is The Quality Or State Of Being Physically Strong. And Likewise, It Is An Emotional Or Mental Qualities Necessary In Dealing With Difficult Or Distressing Situations.

Everything About Life Is Unique, As Students In LAUTECH, When Test & Exams Are Fast Approaching Or Hanging Around The Corner, What I Have Discovered Is That The Serious Students Among Us Put More Oil In Our Lamp & Get Ourselves READY & FIT For Tests & Examinations.

So It Ought To Be In Every Area Of Our Lives. What I Have Come To Learn Is That Everyone’s Relationship Is Unique, And People Come Together For Many Different Reasons.

But There Are Some Things That Good Relationships Have In Common.

Like I Said About Being A Student, The Serious Ones Will Have Commonly Habit Of Adding Oil To Their Lamp And This Keeps Our Motive Towards Academic ALIVE, FIT & HEALTHY.

In Life, Knowing The Basic Principles Of FITTED Marriages Helps Keep Them Meaningful, Fulfilling And Exciting In Both Happy Times And Sad Moments.

And One Thing Is That Admitting You've Made A Mistake Is A Sign Of Strength, Not Weakness.

But The Real Question Is: WHAT GIVES FITNESS TO MARRIAGES?

One Thing I Have Learn Through Academic Is That Keeping In Touch With Academical Partners Build Up As Students, So It Is In Marriages, Staying Involved With Each Other As Partners Is One Of The Major Key To A FITTED Marriage.

Some Relationships Get Stuck In Peaceful Coexistence, But Without Truly Relating To Each Other And Working Together.

While It May Seem Stable On The Surface, Lack Of INVOLVEMENT And COMMUNICATION Increases Distance.

When You Need To Talk About Something Important, The Connection And Understanding May No Longer Be There.

So From The Perspective Of Being A Student, ADEQUATE ATTENTION On Education Bring FITNESS Into The Area Of Our Academics. The Implementation Of This Into Marriages Will Bring FITNESS To Where Its Needed.

STAY TUNE, AS I COMPILE MORE EPISODES!!!

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SEX ORGANS: HOME FOR EXPRESSION OF LOVE? - BY DR. HESPEY

SEX ORGANS: HOME FOR EXPRESSION OF LOVE?

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

As A Young Undergraduate Of The Best State University (Ladoke Akintola University Of Technology (LAUTECH). One Thing I Have Come To Learn About Our Personal Body & The Knowledge That Acts Towards Our Academics Is That, The Kind Of Body Shape Or Size You Have Does Not Have Anything To Do With The Expression Of Your Ability On Your Academics Because Body & Knowledge Are Of Different Things.

So It Is For Us All As Individuals, Bringing This Perspectives Into Our Relationship Lives. The Sex Organs That Are Bestowed Unto Us All By Our Maker Isn't A Home Or An Environment For The Expression Of Love. This Is Of The Major Reason Why I Use To Urge Ladies Never To Imagine Sex As An Expression Of Love. Because Sex & Love Are Of Different Class.

Imagining Or Judging Your Body Shape Or Size Against Your Academics As A Student Is A Sign Of Failure. So It Is When You Start Seeing Your Body & Sec Organs As An Instrument Used For The Expression Of Love, It Is A Sign Of Destruction From The Pit Of Hell. 

Lots Of Those Who Practice Premarital Sex Think It Can Earn Them Love In Return. But My Dear, Nothing Good Comes Out Of Such Relationship. 

What Happens When Sex Turned Off In Such Relationship? In A Situation When You Offer Your Sex Organs Instead Of Love, That Does Not Mean You'll Be Loved Forever. 

One Thing You Must Know That Will Be Of Help To You Is That The Real Definition Of Love Is Sacrifice And Commitment.

If He/She Cannot Sacrifice His/Her Time, Energy Or Resources For Your Well-being; Or Committed To Bringing Out The Best In You, Then You Are Not Loved.

Don't Be Deceived Or Fooled, Your Sex Organs Isn't A Home For The Expression Of Love & Vice Versa. Remember That Your Life & Destiny Are So Precious. Remember Your Sex Organ Is More Than What You Can Afford To Lose In A Just Moment Stand.

Stop Trading With Your Sex Organs, Keep It And Maintain Purity.

One Real Thing Is That Your Boyfriend Or Girlfriend Will Never Tell You About This Truth, Only A Responsible Counsellor & Guidian Will Sit You Down To Tell You These Truths About Sex Because It Is Rare, Only Those Who Are Of God And Not Of Pleasure Will Open Your Eyes To This Truth.

There Are Few Truths But Lots Of Lies In The World Today. 

God Created Sex For Married Couples Only. 

My Beloved, Abstinence Is Worth More Than Having Regrets Before And After Marriage. 

My Proposed Queens, Learn To Make The Word "No Sex Before Marriage" Your Slogan.

If You Don't Give Your Sex Organ To Them As A Lady, They Will Use Their Brain Too!!!

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SENSELESS FLIRT - BY DR. HESPEY

SENSELESS FLIRT

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

I am so sorry to use a word that looks like insult here as a topic, but the real truth is that its really nothing to be sorry about. 

Let me ask you this: what is so sensible in a flirt in the first instance? When you meet few ladies out there, they will tell you "they are using what they have, in order to get what they want".

To my own knowledge as a counsellor, i term "using what you have to get what you want" in term of ladies as A SLOGAN FOR THE WEAK and that why I am using the words "SENSELESS FLIRTS".

I am not really here to insult your personalty as a lady, but i am here to speak some senses into you. Just because you need a particular thing doesn't have to make you stoop so low by rendering yourself useless.

The fact you must know is that there should be nothing as demanding to you than the demand to keep your dignity as a Lady of great value & content.

For the fact that it is clear & visible that DESTINY DOES NOT EXIST BETWEEN your legs, meaning your sexual organ as a lady can't bring about good fortune, especially when manipulated, and the number of MEN YOU OPEN your legs FOR DOEsn't rate your ability to succeed in life. All these should open your dead head madam & lightened it up.

It will be so senseless to know as a lady that you HAVE A DESTINY FILLED MIND and you choose TO IGNORE IT AND TRADE with it in exchange for pleasure & worldly gain.

As a lady, the main dignity that comes without you working for it is your body and your virginity.

When you keep your body, you keep respect, you keep honour (for now & the future), you pursue godliness & prepare an eternal route for yourself.

Like i use to say: Sex is an instrument for marriage, it brings happiness when done rightly, but does not hold the main happiness in life. Only righteousness gives you an everlasting life of joy in Christ Jesus. 

Giving yourself out to sex just for something God can actually provide is the most senseless act and its an act of digging your own grave (both now & the world to come).

Be the wise, keep your dignity and protect your destiny from being TRADED WITH, like a coin used in the world of cryptocurrency.

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PURITY IN SEXUAL ABSTINENCE - BY DR. HESPEY

PURITY IN SEXUAL ABSTINENCE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

After My Very First Ministration At "TRUE LOVE WAITS" 2018 Edition Organized By The Fruitful Singles Of Kajola Baptist Church Last Week, I Felt There Are More To Discuss On Purity And Its Impact On Sexual Abstinence.

One Of The Major Thing That Needs Clear Understanding Is That Physical Intimacy That Involve Sexual Activities Use To Be Always Right And Beautiful When Done Between A Husband And A Wife And It Is Sacred. This Seems To Be So Because It Is The Will Of God That Sex Should Be An Instrument Only In Marriage For The Purpose Of Creation Of Offsprings And For The Expression Of Unionism Between Husband & Wife.

What Most Singles Who Indulge In Sexual Activities Before Marriage Fails To Realize Is That, They Fail To See God's Plan As The Ultimate For Their Life. They Fail To Accept The Fact That God Has Commanded That Sexual Intimacy Be Reserved For Marriage Alone.

But The Real Truth & Fact Is That When You Are Sexually Pure, You Prepare Yourself To Make And Keep Sacred Covenants In The Temple.

Like I Said During My Ministration, For Every Act & Form Of Purity You Live As A Single Guy Or Lady, You Are Actually Sowing A Seed And Of Which It With Germinate As Time Goes On. The Result Is Always Predictable When The Right Thing Is Done But Unpredictable When Out Of Route.

One Of The Major Result Of Purity In Sexual Abstinence Is That You Prepare Yourself To Build A Strong Marriage And To Bring Children Into The World As Part Of An Eternal And Loving Family. And You Protect Yourself From The Spiritual And Emotional Damage That Come From Sharing Sexual Intimacy Outside Of Marriage.

And Lastly, Remaining Sexually Pure Helps You To Be Confident And Truly Happy And Improves Your Ability To Make Good Decisions Now And In The Future In What Relationship You Find Yourself.

In Conclusion, You Must Avoid Being Controlled By The Media, Peer Groups, Or Others To Persuade You That Sexual Intimacy Before Marriage Is Acceptable. Because In God’s Sight, Sexual Sins Are Extremely Serious.

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     DR. HESPEY (2018)

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(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

WHAT BEING A WIFE SIGNIFY - BY DR. HESPEY

WHAT BEING A WIFE SIGNIFY

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Becoming A Wife To Some Sets Of Ladies Looks Like They Are Just Going Into Marriage To Just Cook, Sweep, Attend Occasions Together & To Raise Kids. But The Real Truth Is That Being A Wife To A Man Is More Than That. 

Being A Wife Doesn't Just Signify Or Talks About Being Beautiful And Attractive For A Man. And It's Not Just About Letting A Man Chase You, Letting Him Do Sweet Things Every Time You're Mad At Him And Not Just Receiving Flowers And Gifts During Your Anniversaries Or Going On Occasions Together.

The Real Thing About Being A Wife Is An Act Of Being Ready To Be An Emotional Partner Wherein You Will Support Your Husband In Every Opportunity That He Takes, You Will Appreciate Everything That He Does For You And You Thank Him For Doing It, You Will Remind Him On The Things He Must Do And What He Must Not. 

Just Because You Know That You Can Always Keep Him On His Feet, Doesn't Mean You Can Manipulate Him. 

Being A Wife Means You Need To Understand Him Not Just As A Partner But As Individual Too. You Help Him In Every Way And Showing Him, That In A Relationship, There’s No "I" Or "YOU", There's Only "WE" And "US". 

You Know Also That A Man Has Their Ego, And Even When It Become A Little Irritating Sometimes, You Still Understand That It's A Part Of His Nature. 

A Wife Is Not Just A Term, It Also Has Responsibilities That Every Lady Must Know. 

To Be A Wife Means You Are To Get Ready To Be A Friend, A Sister, A Mother, A Teacher, And A Best Friend To Your Spouse.

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     DR. HESPEY (2018)

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MUST LOVE BE PROVEN? - BY DR. HESPEY

MUST LOVE BE PROVEN?

CONCLUDING PART

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

In The First Part Of This Topoc, I Made Mention Of Those Who Use Sex As A Means To Prove Their Love For Their So Called Partner. Which Is Of Course The Wrong Method.

Some Tend To Use Gifts, Night Out Or A Promised Movie Night As A Means Of Ptoving Love.

The Real Question Is, WHAT IF THOSE THINGS ARE OUT? What If You No More Practice Them Due To Some Things Unpredictable Or Unexpected Cases? Does It Mean The Love Disappears With Those cases?

This Night's View Is To Let You Know That A Relationship Is Not A Prison Yard. 

That A Lady Is Your Girlfriend Does Not Mean She Shouldn't Have Male Friends Or She Should Leave Social Networks Just As A Prove Of Love To You.

A Man Shouldn't Flee From Female Friends Because He Is In A Relationship, Or He Is Expected Not To Associate With His Pals Because He Now Has A Woman In His Life And He Need To Prove His Love.

We Should Trust Our Partners And Hope They Are Faithful.

We Should Love Them Under Any Circumstances Without Expectations.

Some People Are Scared Of Being In Relationships Because They Feel Their Lives Will Be Boring, And They May Be Restricted As A Prove Of Love.

Relationships Should Be Fun And Exciting, Relationship Should Be A Place Where Freedom To Associate & Share Our Opinions, Knowing Our Allegiances Are Pledged To Our Partners.

It Shouldn't Be A Place Where There Are Pressures As To Be Sure Of Being Loved Or Being In Love.

Let freedom rule your relationship & graduate to your marriage.

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MUST LOVE BE PROVEN? - BY DR. HESPEY

MUST LOVE BE PROVEN?

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

The only definition I found regarding TRUE LOVE is that True Love is always letting go. This is so, because Freedom and free will are the by-products of Love in my discovery.

So many of us lead our lives holding on so tightly that nothing new, nothing miraculous can find us.

I have been teaching for few years that holding on is what makes us strong, holding on is what Love is made of and is the best answer. But it seems we are stepping into a new paradigm. We are stepping into a time where growth and Love lead the way.

This means we are constantly changing, evolving, dying and being reborn.

But What must come first should be our own spiritual growth. This means listening to our intuition, trusting our gut and expressing ourselves authentically without hiding.

One of the major reason why LOVE PROVING isn't necessary is because Our relationships have been sent to us, to teach us, to mold us and to shape us.

When we seek Love, The Uni-verse sends us all kinds of relationships that bring to the surface all the blocks we have to Love. But when all this happens, what We must do is to learn to identify when the lessons are over.

One of the greatest headaches of many young ladies in relationship is the issue of sex. While they find themselves entangled in love, they also would not want to offend God by fornicating.

Meanwhile, most young men of today are always demanding for sex before marriage as a proof of love. If a lady hereby denies her boyfriend (fiance) sex, he tends to think she either does not love him or she is seeing another guy. And this throws the lady into so much confusion. She genuinely loves the guy but wouldn't want to give in to sex. If she denies him, she may lose him and if she gives in too she disobeys God. Sorry to our ladies.

Gentlemen, please know that it is absolutely a lie from the pit of hell that if your fiancee does not give you sex it shows she doesn't love you. How can you use sex as a LOVEOMETRE? Have you never heard of those who slept with ladies they didn't truly love? If you haven't then let me tell you that many people are having sex with people they never love. And the men are themselves the worst culprits.

If sex is a proof of love then we have to conclude that prostitutes love all the men they sleep with.

If sex is a proof of love then we have to go about sleeping with our best friends and even family members just to show them how deeply we love them.

Get it straight that Even married couples, do not have sex to prove their love. They rather have sex because sex is part of marriage and it is meant for both procreation and recreation - child birth and enjoyment. 

Seeking love from sex or using sex as a proof of love is like going to hell with a white linen.

Relationships are containers for growth, not opportunities to suffer so we can prove how much we “love” someone. And a relationship isn’t full if both people aren’t in self-love and then sharing their love with each other from a place of overflow.

Its unnecessary to kill yourself just to prove Love, but instead invoke Love in your lives and recognize that the Love of The Uni-verse IS the purifier and the teacher. Know and accept that fact that The face of Love may change, but the energy of Love of The Uni-verse never changes.

In conclusion, Let us no longer try to prove our Love by how much we can hold on to toxic situations like offering sex, gifts and so on, but rather by how much we are willing to let go once the lesson has been learnt.

I DR. HESPEY, as a young counsellor, have never come across a rulebook for this principle of love proving.

This are some things we must each learn individually and grow into.

We must each learn that The Universe is setup so that we all can have free will to choose to connect to Love, or not. And We must learn to give ourselves this freedom as well as all the people in our lives.

To me, Love does not seek to control, but rather gives freedom. If you give yourself or those in your life this freedom, my dear, you will enjoy life enough & more than being QUESTIONED for LOVE.

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SEX, NOT THE MOST PRIORITIZED - BY DR. HESPEY

SEX, NOT THE MOST PRIORITIZED

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

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This Article Is Written To Both My Single Readers & Couples. Just As The Way Lustful Youths Sees SEX As An INSTRUMENT And The Most TO-BE-USED During Their Relationship Is Just The Same Way Most Couples Sees SEX As A PRIORITY And The Most PRIORITIZED In Their Marriage.

Though Sex Is An IMPORTANT ELEMENT In MARRIAGE, And As Far I Am Concern, Until There Is Sexual Intercourse Between A Husband And A Wife, The Marriage Is Not Yet SPIRITUALLY RECOGNISED. Because The Bible Speaks Of Situations Where Few Men Knew (had sex with) Their Wives. This Biblically Shows How Important Sex Is Only In The Court Of Marriage.

But As A Case Study, When I Study How Agressive Most Men Use To Be Regarding Sex, It Came To My Mind That Most Of Them Only See Women As An Object Of Sex Alone And They Tend To See Sex As Their Major Priority In Their Marriage.

A Type Of Relationship That Demands For Sex During Dating Or Courtship Is Likely To Be The One That Depends On Sex After Their Wedding, And Of Which They Go Against What Real Marriage Is Meant To Be. 

The Real Fact That I Need You To Know Is That "What A Man Needs Most From A Woman Is Never Sex And It Can Never Be Sex Alone.

Many Young Girls Think Because They Are Sexually Active And Experience They Will Easily Be Married And Have Their Husbands Loving Them. And When A Man Approaches Them For Marriage They Think The Greatest Asset They Have To Show Or Offer The Man Is Sex. Meanwhile, Others Also Think Once They Are Giving Out Their Bodies It Means They Are Giving Out The Best For Which Reason They Will Be Chosen Above All.

For Instance, There Is This Young Girl Who Is Very Beautiful And Sexually Active. Due To That She Thought Sex Is All That Matters To A Man. Ironically, She Struggled For Long Before Finally Getting Married. Her Sexual Dexterity Could Not Win Her The Heart Of A Man Until A Very Handsome Good Man Married Her. The Wedding Was Grand And Her Tears Were Now Gone. Unfortunately Only A Year After The Wedding, The Marriage Fell On Rocks. Within Five Years Three Different Men Came Her Way But None Could Stay. This Happened Because She Thought Sex Was All That Matters Just Like Others Use To Be Too Aggressive Towards It, So She Would Never Submit To Her Man.

But The Real Sense Is, Sex Is Just An Instrument, Meant To Be Used Once In A While in marriage, Because Submission Is What Responsible Men Need, Not Sex. And As A Medical Practitioner, I Have Discovered That Excessive Sexual Activities Leads To Many Deadly Diseases Which Will Be Another Topic Entirely To Be Discussed In My Next Article.

It Is High Time For Our Young Ladies, Guys, Married Men & Women To Know That Marriage Will Not Look Out For SEXUAL SATISFACTION Only, But Marriage Requires Submission And Responsibilities.

The Holy Bible Mandated It By Saying, "All Wives Should Submit To Their Husband." And Regarding Submission, I Have Come To Learn That A Man's True Love Only Goes Out To A Woman Who Is Submissive To Him. And The Real Truth That I Must Let You Know Is That Your SEXUAL ACTIVENESS Cannot Make Another Woman Ugly In The Presence Of Your Man, But Your HUMILITY Can Let Him Love You Above All Other Women.

Marriage Requires HUMILITY As A PRIORITY." So Be You A Guy Or Lady, When You Are Humble, You Will Be An EXPENSIVE JEWELRY Of Which A Man/Woman Of High Integrity Will Fear To Lose You.

And Lastly, I Will Like To Change Your Perspective Towards What SUBMISSION Is.

Never You See SUBMISSION As Being "IN CONTROL OF." Your SUBMISSIVE Heart Doesn't Mean You Will Be Dominate On. The Truth Is If You See SUBMISSION As Being Under Someone, This Will Only Make You Raise Your PRIDE And PUSH THE RIGHT PERSON AWAY. The LACK OF SUBMISSION Just Simply Means Your Heart Is Actually Greater Than Your Height, And Get It Straight, No Man Will Ever Settle For Such, Not To Talk Of Loving Such.

I Pray The Good Lord Will Give Us All His Full Understanding And Direct Us On What Real Marriage Means And What Its Requirements Are in Jesus name.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

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(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

RELATIONSHIP SATISFACTION - BY DR. HESPEY

RELATIONSHIP SATISFACTION

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Nowadays, Unsatisfactory Relationships Are What Most Singles See Themselves In. The Tend Not To Be Contented With What They Have And Keep Yelling For More. But I Am Here To Give You Just Few Tip On What To Do In A Time Like This.

Contentment, Also Termed As Satisfaction Isn’t An Excited Kind Of Happy, To Me, It’s More Like A Peaceful Ease Of Mind. It’s Being Satisfied With What You Have, Whatever That Is. You Might Feel A Sense Of Contentment Knowing You Have The Best Or You Might Experience Contentment Thinking About The What The Future Holds. Whatever Is Going On In Your Life, You Need To Be Pleased About It.

My Dear Single Lady, Your Boyfriend May Not Own A Car, Probably Because He Isn't Earning A Lot Of Money Yet And That Doesn't Bring Him Close To Live In A Posh Estate. And Most Times Or He May Not Or Has Never Been Able To Shower You With Gifts Simply Because He Doesn't Have A Great Job Yet.

But There Is This Fact That I Really Want You To Know, It’s Enough For You To Know That You Are The Only One He Has At His Heart. 

All Those Things That Shows Riches Msy Not Be Visible Now, But Know That He Has A Vision And He Is Working Towards Honesty And That's The Reason Why He Is Very Hard-working And Humble. 

My Dear Singles, Appreciate That Guy/Lady In Your Life Who Strives To Be All You Need. Though, He/She May Not Be All The Things You Need Right Now But With Time Believe Me, He/She Will Be What You Desire. He Will Get A Good Paying Job, He Will Get The Money, He Will Buy A Land And He Will Build A House For Both Of You. As Far As Consistency Is Involved.

Satisfaction Is What You Need My Dear Singles, After Satisfaction, Just Kindly Add Little Patience If You Seriously Love Him/Her And You Are Willing To Stay. 

Don't Be Pushed Around By Money And What You Want To Eat At The Moment And Avoid Comparison.

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TRUE ABSTINENCE - BY DR. HESPEY

TRUE ABSTINENCE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

​You May Have Heard People Talk About Abstinence In Different Ways. Some People Think Of Abstinence As Not Having Vaginal Intercourse. They May Enjoy Other Kinds Of Sex Play That Don't Lead To Pregnancy. But To Me, This Is Best Described As Outercourse.

Some People Define Abstinence As Not Having Vaginal Intercourse When A Woman Might Get Pregnant.

This Is Better Described As Period Of Abstinence, Which Is One Of The Fertility Awareness-based Methods Of Birth Control.

As Far As I Am Concern, Abstinence, Also Referred To As Celibacy, Is The Choice To Avoid Participating In Sexual Behaviors. Since The Term “sexual Behavior” Is Defined Differently By Various People, Societies, Cultures, Religions, And Regions, It Is Difficult To Draw An Absolute Line Distinguishing Which Acts Are Considered “sexual Behaviors.”

Meanwhile, The Very Best Definition And Practice Of True Abstinence Is A Person Not Having Any Kind Of Sex Play With A Partner, Either Of The Same Sex Or The Opposite Sex. And This Is The Definition I Best Accept.

True abstinence avoids kissing, passionate hugging, and all sort of sexual immoralities.

Being Continuously Abstinent Is The Only Way To Be Absolutely Sure That You Won't Have An Unintended Pregnancy Or Get A Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI).

For True Abstinence, The Word Play Safe Isn't In Use, Its An Odd Word. Because Nothing Is As Safe As Being Pure.

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THE REAL WOMAN - BY DR. HESPEY

THE REAL WOMAN

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Welcoming You Guys To The New Year After The Successful Completion Of The Last Article Titled: 10 Commandments For Godly Relationships, This New Year, I Want To Start By Addressing The Queens In The House By Sharing Few Things About REAL WOMEN And What It Takes To Become One.

A REAL WOMAN Is Not Just Beautiful Or Confident Because Of Her Flawlessness, Complexion Or The Curves On Her Body.

The REAL WOMAN is the woman who see God as the first, she sells not what she knows belongs to her destined man, she goes not out of the will of God for her life and she is a respecter of God's plan.

The Real Fact That I Want To Pass Across Is That A REAL WOMAN Is Always Determined, Driven And Able To Accomplish Great Feats. Her Ability To Be So Strong Is Derived From Her Own Knowledge, Intuition And Ambition.

In The Face Of Adversity She Is Able To Tap The Proper Resources To Conquer Any Problem, Instead Of Just Giving Up, By Being Patient And She Has The Right Amount Of Drama To Share With Her Man. Both Positive And Negative. 

The Fact Is That Whether Personally Or Professionally, This Real Woman Has Great Goals And Desires. This REAL WOMAN Knows That With The Right Amount Of Inspiration And Motivation Anything Is Possible And Is Willing To Do What It Takes To Make Her Dreams A Reality.

A REAL WOMAN Is Confident Because She Is Not Insecure About Losing The Beauty Of Her Heart And Soul To Another Woman And She Is Not Beautiful Because She Is A Certain Size Or Weight On The Scale.

She Is Simply Beautiful Because She Knows That Every Woman Has A Unique Personality Of Which She Is One Of Them And She Refuses To Be Compared To Any Other Woman.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

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(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)