READINESS FOR MARRIAGE - BY DR. HESPEY

READINESS FOR MARRIAGE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

As A Student, I See Great Need For Preparation Against Anything, Preparation For Examinations Is An Act That Get One Ready For A Better Result And Pace In The Future.

So Bringing This Perspective Into Marriage, The Requirements Of Marriage Seems Missing In Most Of The Singles That Rush Towards Marriage This Days. Marriage Require Patience & Careful Readings Before It Can Be Walked Up To.
Marriage Requires Lots Of Patience, And Preparation Is A Well Known Equipment For Marriage As Well.

Like One Of My Saying: “PREPARATION & ADEQUATE CARE Makes Things Work The Way They Ought To.
This Is Why When It Comes To Marriage, You Don’t Have To Be Ready Before You Start Preparing For Marriage, And In Fact In A Real Sense, You Don’t Need To Be In Any Relationship Before You Start Preparing For Marriage.

As A Lady, The Hope That The Act Of VIRTUOUS CHARACTER CULTIVATION Gives Or Keep In Hidden For Your Proposed Marriage Is Never Limited.
So If You Are Actually Looking Up To A Day Of Marriage, You Need This Moment To Start Learning How To Be Submissive To Your Dad, Elders And Authorities, Not Because You Have Something To Collect From Them, But Because You’ll Need To Submit To Your Husband After Marriage.
You Need To Cultivate The Habit Of Waking Up Early, This Should Be So, Because What I Have Come To Learn Is That A Good Wife Is A Early Riser. And Most Importantly, The Key To A Good & Successful Marriage Doesn’t Just Have To Do With Looks Alone, It Covers Good Skills In Keeping A Home Through Betterment In Chores & The Nurturing Of Kids, Multi Task And How To Prepare Different Kind Of Food.

I Am Not Married Yet, But The Key That I See Which Holds Most Successful Marriages Around Me Is That The Women Are So Virtuous To The Extent That They Know What Gives Joy To Their Home And They Do It. They Learnt That What Makes A Wife Is Not Just The Wedding Ring. But How She Deals With Things Around Her And Keep Her Home.

Remember The Bible Says “He Who Finds A Wife… Proverb 18:22” Not He Who Finds A Lady Or Woman.
What Every Man Is Looking For Is A Wife, And Wives Are Made From Their Mothers’ House Not In A Man’s House.
So Learn And Prepare For That Man That Will Find You.

And To The Men,
You Also Need To Prepare And Learn.
First Of All, Learn How To Be A Good Brother, Friend, Husband, Father & Leader. Because You Weren’t Created To Have Dominion Over A Woman, And The Point Is That No Woman Wants A Ruler For A Husband But A Leader.
So Cultivate The Habit Of Giving Out Joy Instead Of Sorrow And Be A Cheerful Giver, Because This Doesn’t Limit Joy In Anyway. What Being A Cheerful Giver Does Is That: It Opens More Doors Of Blessings.

As A Man, You Need To Be Resourceful & Equipped. Learn How To Keep Your Home All Day Long By Investment If Possible.
And Lastly, All Things Without The Involvement Of The Creator Isn’t & Can Never Be Complete. So For A Happy Marriage In The Future, Start Now By Building A Very Close Relationship With God And Be Sensitive To Hear From Him When He Speaks.
Like The Common Saying: “If You Rush In, You Gonna Rush Out”, So Never Rush In For What Requires Adequate Preparation In Order Not To Rush Out Of The Divine Making Process Of God.

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DR. HESPEY (2018)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

REASONS FOR SINGLENESS - BY DR. HESPEY

REASONS FOR SINGLENESS

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

"Reasons For Singleness" Is An Article That Comes To My Mind Few Days Ago When Ruminating Most Of The Reasons Few Singles Gives For Not Being In Any Relationship.

It Is Certain That When You Do The Wrong Thing At The Right Time, The End Result Will Be Wrong. And When The Right Thing Is Being Done At The Wrong Time, The Result Can Never Be Right.

So Regarding Relationships, I Discovered That When One Start A Relationship At The Wrong Time, It May Or May Not Be Positive And This Will Likely Affect The Period Of Courtship & Later The Marriage.

So Being Single To Some Extent Seems To Be Very Lovely.

But Before I Proceed, Let Me Define Courtship.
I See Courtship As A Period For Both Man And Woman To Get To Know One Another For A Period Of Time, It Is This Period That Precede Marriage Where Both The Man & Woman Make Use Of The Opportunity To Figure Out If The Relationship Is Going To Work Between Them.
Through Lots Of Findings & Questioning I Have Seen Courtship Extending For A Period Of 3, 4, 5, 6 Years And Above And At The End Of It All, There Was No Joining Of Hands In Marriage.

For Those Who Have It In Mind To Ask, Those Who Have Been Asking & Wanting To Know The Reason Why I Am Still Single, Here It Is.
Though Reasons For Being Single Ought To Be Personal, But As A Relationship Counsellor. I See No Reason Keeping It When I Can Vividly See Lots Of Lessons Other Singles Can Learn From My Reasons.

One Of The Major For Most Singleness Is: To Avoid Long Term Relationship, Long Term Relationship Can Actually Hold One Back—from One's Dreams, One's Potential And One's Goals.
It Can Become Easy To Hide Out In Long-term Relationships; Forgoing Your Independence And Drive To Reach Your Potential And Take Risks In Going For Your Dreams.
Your Partner May Become Stagnant As Well.
As Far As I Am Concerned About Women, I See Them As An Adorable Image That Ought To Be Taken Care Of & Not To Be Taken For Granted.

When It Comes To Relationship Women Seems Not To Have That Much Time On Their Side In Courtship And Should Not Be Held Down By Unfulfilled Promises By Men.
If The Courtship Could Not Go According To Plan, Women Suffers The Most For It After Long Term Relationship In Which, She Would Have Been Used And Resulting In Dumping.
Staying In Long Term Courtship Without Actual Date And Plan For Your Marriage Yet Has Other Side Of The Story Which I Am Not Ready To Be A Failure At.
A Long Courtship Going Nowhere Strips A Woman Of Her Dignity And Self-esteem, Which Should Still Be Maintained.

My Dear Singles, Never Mourn Your Singleness.
Singleness Isn't A Sin Neither Is Singleness A Disease.
Never Allow Anyone To Make You Inferior.
You Can Be Single And Successful.

Singleness Ought Not To Seen As A Problem, And Get This Sure, Marriage Is Not Anybody's Right, Because It Is God That Grants Any Of Them As A Gift.
Another Thing Is That We All Are Not Created For Marriage, But Marriage Was Created For Us.
You Will Not Not Be Sent Out Of Heaven Simply Because You Are Not Married, But It Is For Sure That Marriage Can Take You To Hell If Marry The Wrong Person And Marrying The Wrong Person Is As A Result Of Doing Things In The Wrong Time.
Scientists And Phycologists Has Proof To Us That Marrying The Wrong Person Can Reduce The Life Of Someone By 62%, So It Is Better To Be Single Hoping To Be Married Than To Be Married Hoping To Be Single Again.

So My Dear Singles, Relax And Take Your Time, Use Your Singleness For Your God As Far As This Period Of Singleness Is Concern. And Wait For The Right Time.

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     DR. HESPEY (2018)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

GIVING FITNESS TO YOUR MARRIAGE - BY DR. HESPEY

GIVING FITNESS TO YOUR MARRIAGE

EPISODE II

SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER AS COUPLES OUGHT TO

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

I Believe You Probably Have Fond Memories Of When You Were First Dating Your Loved One.
Everything May Have Seemed New And Exciting, And You May Have Spent Hours Just Chatting Together Or Coming Up With New, Exciting Things To Try.
However, As Time Goes By, Children, Demanding Jobs, Long Commutes, Different Hobbies And Other Obligations Can Make It Hard To Find Time Together.
It’s Critical For Your Relationship, Though, To Make Time For Yourselves.
If You Don’t Have Quality Time, Communication And Understanding Start To Erode.
Simple Ways To Connect As A Couple And Rekindle Love Commit To Spending Quality Time Together On A Regular Basis.
Even During Very Busy And Stressful Times, A Few Minutes Of Really Sharing And Connecting Can Help Keep Bonds Strong.
This Is What I Mean By Compatibility, Find Something That You Enjoy Doing Together, Whether It Is A Shared Hobby, Dance Class, Daily Walk, Or Sitting Over A Cup Of Coffee In The Morning.
Try Something New Together.
Doing New Things Together Can Be A Funny Way To Connect And Keep Things Interesting.
It Can Be As Simple As Trying A New Restaurant Or Going On A Day Trip To A Place You’ve Never Been Before.
Couples Are Often More Fun And Playful In The Early Stages Of A Relationship.
However, This Playful Attitude Can Sometimes Be Forgotten As Life's Challenges Or Old Resentments Start Getting In The Way.
Keeping A Sense Of Humour Can Actually Help You Get Through Tough Times, Reduce Stress, And Work Through Issues More Easily.
Focus On Having Fun Together, Think About Playful Ways To Surprise Your Partner, Like Bringing Flowers Or A Favourite Movie Home Unexpectedly.
Learn From The “PLAY EXPERTS” Together.
Playing With Pets Or Small Children Can Really Help You Reconnect With Your Playful Side.
If It’s Something You Do Together, You Also Learn More About Your Partner And How He Or She Likes To Have Fun.
Make A Habit Of Laughing Together Whenever You Can.
Most Situations Are Not As Bleak As They Appear To Be When You Approach Them With Humour.
Learning How To Play Again, A Little Humour And Playful Interaction Can Go A Long Way In Relieving Tense Situations And Helping You See The Brighter Side.
If You’re Feeling A Little Rusty, Learn More About How Playful Communication Can Improve Your Relationship, And For Fun Ways To Practice This Skill.
Be A Manager In Your Relationship And Manage It Well.

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     DR. HESPEY (2018)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

SETTLING FOR THE LESS - BY DR. HESPEY

SETTLING FOR THE LESS

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

"SETTLING FOR THE LESS" Is An Act Of Going For Something Below Your Standard Or Something That Is Far Low To What You Deserve. Settling Below What God Wanted For You.

I Have Been Pondering So Hard On The Reason(s) Why Most Youths Got Married And Later See Themselves In The Wrong Marriage.

So In A Case Study This Past Week, I Have Come To Discover Few Things That Brings About SETTLING FOR THE LESS And What SETTLING FOR THE LESS GIVES IN RETURN.

One Of Those Things That Bring About Settling For The Less Is IMPATIENT And LACK OF SELF CONTROL. In Every Human Who Lack Patience, There Will Always Be An Urge To Move More Than The Way They Are Destined To Move At An Instance Even by Their Maker.

But Lack Of Self Control Is The Major Key Of Which I Discovered That Is The Source Of Settling For The Less.

This Is So, Because In My Case Study This Past Week, I Came Across Three Different Guys With Some Set Of Ladies Who Are Their Wives. Seeing Them, I Felt This Isn't What They Deserve To Get Married To. But These Set Of Guys Settle For The Less Because They Couldn't Control Themselves.

Their Settlement Came In Through The Act Of FORNICATION, After Which They Became Entangled To A Lady Below Their Standard Each.

SETTLING FOR THE LESS Is Very Harmful In Marriage. In My Findings, This Is One Of The Major Reasons Why Some Men Commit Adultery. They Do So When They Discovered That What They Have Didn't Deserve Them Or That They Deserve More Themselves.

They Commit Adultery When They See Someone More Beautiful Than What They Have At Home.

So My Dear Singles, Take Your Time And Be Very Sure Of What You Want Before You Settle For It.

Know And Be Sure That This Is The Person You Are Ready To Live With Till The End.

Gain Self Awareness About Your Choice Of Partner And Their Willingness To Meet Your Emotional And Personal Needs During Marriage.

To Avoid Settling For The Less, You Need To Stop Putting Yourself Down And Stop Comparing Yourself To Other Friends Who Seems To Have Met A Partner Of Their Dream. Accept The Fact That Fear Of Being Single Is Normal.

So My Dear, Be Focus, Focus On Finding Your Passion Rather Than Finding A Life partner And Embrace Some Of The Pleasures Of Being Single. This Means, Instead Of Going And Looking Around The World For Someone You Love, Use Your Precious Time And Search For Something You Cherish.

Stay Faithful And Hope For God's Best.

I Say Again:
Take Your Time And Be Patient.
You Deserve The Best.

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DR. HESPEY (2018)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

GIVING FITNESS TO YOUR MARRIAGE - BY DR. HESPEY

GIVING FITNESS TO YOUR MARRIAGE

EPISODE I
KEEP PHYSICAL INTIMACY ALIVE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Through Few Interactive Section With Married Couples, I Have Come To Understand The Significant Role TOUCHING Plays In Any Intimacy, Especially When Done In The Right Aspect, Which Is Marriage.
Touch Is A Fundamental Part Of Human Existence.
Studies On Infants Have Shown The Importance Of Regular, Loving Touch And Holding On Brain Development.
These Benefits Do Not End In Childhood.
What I Have Learn Is That Life Without Physical Contact With Others Is A Lonely Life Indeed.
An From My Studies As A Medical Practitioner, It Has Been Discovered That Affectionate Touch Actually Boosts The Body’s Levels Of Oxytocin, A Hormone That Influences Bonding And Attachment.
In A Committed Relationship Of Marriage Between Two Adult Partners, Physical Intercourse Is Often A Cornerstone Of The Relationship.
However, Intercourse Should Not Be The Only Method Of Physical Intimacy In A Marriage.
Regular, Affectionate Touch, Holding Hands, Hugging, Or Kissing Is Equally Important During Marriage.
So You Need To Be Sensitive To What Your Partner Likes. While Touch Is A Key Part Of A Healthy Marriage, It’s Important To Take Some Time To Find Out What Your Partner Really Likes.
Unwanted Touching Or Inappropriate Overtures Can Make The Other Person Tense Up And Retreat, And That's Exactly What You Don’t Want. So Take Some Time And Show Some Love, Be Convalescent With Your Partner.

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DR. HESPEY (2018)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

GIVING FITNESS TO YOUR MARRIAGE - BY DR. HESPEY

GIVING FITNESS TO YOUR MARRIAGE

INTRODUCTORY EPISODE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

FITNESS Is The Quality Or State Of Being Physically Strong. And Likewise, It Is An Emotional Or Mental Qualities Necessary In Dealing With Difficult Or Distressing Situations.

Everything About Life Is Unique, As Students In LAUTECH, When Test & Exams Are Fast Approaching Or Hanging Around The Corner, What I Have Discovered Is That The Serious Students Among Us Put More Oil In Our Lamp & Get Ourselves READY & FIT For Tests & Examinations.

So It Ought To Be In Every Area Of Our Lives. What I Have Come To Learn Is That Everyone’s Relationship Is Unique, And People Come Together For Many Different Reasons.

But There Are Some Things That Good Relationships Have In Common.

Like I Said About Being A Student, The Serious Ones Will Have Commonly Habit Of Adding Oil To Their Lamp And This Keeps Our Motive Towards Academic ALIVE, FIT & HEALTHY.

In Life, Knowing The Basic Principles Of FITTED Marriages Helps Keep Them Meaningful, Fulfilling And Exciting In Both Happy Times And Sad Moments.

And One Thing Is That Admitting You've Made A Mistake Is A Sign Of Strength, Not Weakness.

But The Real Question Is: WHAT GIVES FITNESS TO MARRIAGES?

One Thing I Have Learn Through Academic Is That Keeping In Touch With Academical Partners Build Up As Students, So It Is In Marriages, Staying Involved With Each Other As Partners Is One Of The Major Key To A FITTED Marriage.

Some Relationships Get Stuck In Peaceful Coexistence, But Without Truly Relating To Each Other And Working Together.

While It May Seem Stable On The Surface, Lack Of INVOLVEMENT And COMMUNICATION Increases Distance.

When You Need To Talk About Something Important, The Connection And Understanding May No Longer Be There.

So From The Perspective Of Being A Student, ADEQUATE ATTENTION On Education Bring FITNESS Into The Area Of Our Academics. The Implementation Of This Into Marriages Will Bring FITNESS To Where Its Needed.

STAY TUNE, AS I COMPILE MORE EPISODES!!!

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     DR. HESPEY (2018)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

SEX ORGANS: HOME FOR EXPRESSION OF LOVE? - BY DR. HESPEY

SEX ORGANS: HOME FOR EXPRESSION OF LOVE?

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

As A Young Undergraduate Of The Best State University (Ladoke Akintola University Of Technology (LAUTECH). One Thing I Have Come To Learn About Our Personal Body & The Knowledge That Acts Towards Our Academics Is That, The Kind Of Body Shape Or Size You Have Does Not Have Anything To Do With The Expression Of Your Ability On Your Academics Because Body & Knowledge Are Of Different Things.

So It Is For Us All As Individuals, Bringing This Perspectives Into Our Relationship Lives. The Sex Organs That Are Bestowed Unto Us All By Our Maker Isn't A Home Or An Environment For The Expression Of Love. This Is Of The Major Reason Why I Use To Urge Ladies Never To Imagine Sex As An Expression Of Love. Because Sex & Love Are Of Different Class.

Imagining Or Judging Your Body Shape Or Size Against Your Academics As A Student Is A Sign Of Failure. So It Is When You Start Seeing Your Body & Sec Organs As An Instrument Used For The Expression Of Love, It Is A Sign Of Destruction From The Pit Of Hell. 

Lots Of Those Who Practice Premarital Sex Think It Can Earn Them Love In Return. But My Dear, Nothing Good Comes Out Of Such Relationship. 

What Happens When Sex Turned Off In Such Relationship? In A Situation When You Offer Your Sex Organs Instead Of Love, That Does Not Mean You'll Be Loved Forever. 

One Thing You Must Know That Will Be Of Help To You Is That The Real Definition Of Love Is Sacrifice And Commitment.

If He/She Cannot Sacrifice His/Her Time, Energy Or Resources For Your Well-being; Or Committed To Bringing Out The Best In You, Then You Are Not Loved.

Don't Be Deceived Or Fooled, Your Sex Organs Isn't A Home For The Expression Of Love & Vice Versa. Remember That Your Life & Destiny Are So Precious. Remember Your Sex Organ Is More Than What You Can Afford To Lose In A Just Moment Stand.

Stop Trading With Your Sex Organs, Keep It And Maintain Purity.

One Real Thing Is That Your Boyfriend Or Girlfriend Will Never Tell You About This Truth, Only A Responsible Counsellor & Guidian Will Sit You Down To Tell You These Truths About Sex Because It Is Rare, Only Those Who Are Of God And Not Of Pleasure Will Open Your Eyes To This Truth.

There Are Few Truths But Lots Of Lies In The World Today. 

God Created Sex For Married Couples Only. 

My Beloved, Abstinence Is Worth More Than Having Regrets Before And After Marriage. 

My Proposed Queens, Learn To Make The Word "No Sex Before Marriage" Your Slogan.

If You Don't Give Your Sex Organ To Them As A Lady, They Will Use Their Brain Too!!!

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© ODERINDE TAIWO JOEL

     DR. HESPEY (2018)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)