A SICK MARRIAGE & ITS CURE - BY DR. HESPEY

A SICK MARRIAGE & ITS CURE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

The Thought Of Something Falling Sick And The Need For Revival Came To My Mind. As A Student, Whose Examination Is About To Start In Few Days, I Thought About How Being A Failure Usually Thrust Up In Students, Of Which I Discovered That Avoiding Being A Failure As A Student Requires The Habit Of Hard Study Which Is The Only Cure To Academic Failure.
Bringing This Perspective Into Marriages, I Discovered That Most Married Couples These Days Find It So Hard To Solve Issues Within Their Marriage, Instead Of Finding Solution (S) To Its Defects, Some Choose Break Up As The Best Option, Meanwhile It's Never The Best.
Dear Married Couples, Though I Am Not Married Yet, But The Perspective Of Being Sick & Being Cure Came Into My Mind And God's Faithfulness Dip In Thoughts Of Marriage Into Me.

SO TO THIS EFFECT, I BRING TO YOU THE CURE OF A SICK MARRIAGE, LABELLED THE FIVE "R" TO CURE A SICK MARRIAGE.

1. RECOGNISE That You Have The Power To Redefine The Marriage. I See Recognition As An Assurance Of Victory.
Even If You Feel Like A Victim, You Play A Role In Setting Up What Is And Isn't Acceptable In Your Marriage.

As A Student, When I Stop Assimilating Academically, The First Thing I Did Was That I Trace It Backward To The Point When It Start And How It Began, And From There, I Was Able To Move On. So I Believe That For Every Crisis, There Must Be A Source, Which Means It Actually Started From A Point. So To Get Them Settled, RECOGNISE The Source.
2. One Of Those Cure Each & Every Marriage Need Is That: In Any Circumstances Of Your Marriage, Learn To Believe It's Never Too Late To RECONCILE.
It Is Not Too Late:
3. This Statement Is Actually Coming In A View That You Can Rescue Your Marriage, RECONCILE And RECONNECT With Your Partner.
It May Not Be Easy, But Here's My Advice On Where To Begin.
Stop The Ego-driven Power Struggle. I See Ego As A Foundation Leaker.
Don't Be A "Right-fighter."
Destroying Your Marriage So You Can Be Right In Every Argument Doesn't Worth It, So Be Very Careful In This Aspect.
Make A Promise To Work On Your Marriage Every Single Day, Not Just During The Bad Times, But Also During The Good Ones. This Bring A Fulfilling & Lasting Unionism.
4. Make A Plan Together To RENEGOTIATE The Marriage. I See RENEGOTIATION As A Foundation RENOVATOR.
Even Patterns That You've Had For 20years Or More Can Actually Changed If You Put This In Practice. For The Fact That You've Been In That Sick-marriage State For Years Doesn't Mean It Has No End.
5. Your Vows Are About COMMITMENT, Not Method. I See COMMITMENT As The Major Key For A Successful Marriage, With A Long Lasting Partnership.
If Perhaps The Methods You've Been Using Aren't Working, It's Time To Try New Ones.
Choose:
RECOGNITION
RECONCILIATION
RECONNECTION
RENEGOTIATION &
RECOMMITMENT.
May The Good Lord Strengthened Every Home & May He Cure All Sick-marriages In Jesus Name!!!

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© ODERINDE TAIWO JOEL

     DR. HESPEY (2018)

MASTURBATION: VINDICATIVE OR IMPLICATIVE? - BY DR. HESPEY

MASTURBATION: VINDICATIVE OR IMPLICATIVE?

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Masturbation Is Actually An Act Of Toying Or Playing With One's Organs To Bring Out Sexual Urges And It Is A Common Activity. It’s A Natural And Safe Way To Explore Your Body, Feel Pleasure, And Release Built-up Sexual Tension. In My Recent Case Study, I Discovered It Occurs Among People Of Different Genders, And Races.
The Real Truth Is That There Are Actually No Physically Harmful Side Effects Of Masturbation. However, Masturbation Can Be IMPLICATIVE On Your Relationships And Everyday Life. Other Than That, Masturbation Is A Fun But Unhealthy In Some Aspect Of Medical & Religiously.

Through My Counselling Years, I Have Come Across Many People Who Think That Masturbation Is Really Nothing To Worry About, But In Real Sense, It Can Be IMPLICATIVE By Becoming A Bad Addiction.

Now Let's Take It To A Case Study Of A Drunkard Who Fools Himself That He Is Not Addicted To Alcohol, People Who Are Addicted To Masturbation Will Deny The Fact That They Have Become Addicts.

Recent Brain Science Research Gives Us New Insight Into This Complex Topic. From Your Brain's Perspective, Masturbation Is Literally "Self-sex" Which Can Create Three Challenges:

1. The Neurochemical Rush Triggered By Sexual Experiences Can Turn Masturbation Into A Convenient Drug Of Choice For Pleasure, Escape, And Self-medication From Loneliness, Boredom, Insomnia, Negative Emotions, And The Stresses Of Life. Over Time, The Brain's Highly Efficient Powers Of Habit-formation Turn Masturbation Into A Chemical Dependency Which Is Termed "Addiction".

2. Masturbation Interferes With Healthy Sexuality In A Marriage. The Same Neurochemicals That, During Marital Intimacy, Enhance Your Relationship With Your Spouse, Redirect Your Desire Toward Your Self Rather Than Your Spouse. Over Time, "Self-sex" Becomes Your Brain's Preferred Method For Achieving Sexual Gratification.

3. Masturbation Is Contrary To God's Plan For Sexuality To Be Self-giving With Love. As An Act Of Self-gratification Focused On Lust, Masturbation Cheats Both The Individual And The Spouse Out Of The Powerful Potential God Built Into Human Sexuality. Habitual Masturbation Can Lead A Person To Look At All Of Life From A Selfish And Lustful Point Of View.

Other Deduced Implicative Part Of Masturbation Gotten From Those Who In Time Past Were Victims Are As Follows:
Headache
Dizziness
Nervousness
Pain In The Shoulders And Sides
Pain In The Back And Legs
Rheumatism - Inflammation Or Pain In Muscles, Joints, Or Fibrous Tissue
Loss Of Appetite Leading To Weight Loss
Fluid Retention (Edema) – Weight Gain
Insomnia
Tiredness
Great Exhaustion After Exercising
Sallow Countenance (Your Face Looks Like You Have The Flu – That Sick, Dead Look)
Loss Of Memory And Sight
Loss Of Concentration And Focus (Brain Fog)
Increased Risk Of Cancer
Abrasions Or Swelling Of The Penis
Difficulty In Performing Real Sexual Intercourse Because Of A Weak Erection
Premature Ejaculation
Semen Leakage
Reduced Orgasm
Loss Of Sex Drive Towards The Opposite Sex.
Not Only Will Your Body Be Affected, But Your Mind Too Will Also Be Tampered With.

So Having Known All These IMPLICATIONS, Now Lets Get Down To The Way Out Of All These Implications.
The Following Are Ways To Avoid This Act.

1. Talk To Someone You Trust.

The Very First Thing Is To Discuss With Someone Of Better Reputation. If You Feel Like It’s Becoming Hard For You To Avoid Masturbation, Try Talking To Someone You Trust And Who Can Help You. These People Can Include Your Church Pastor, Counsellor, Close Relative Or Friend. It Is Certain That You May First Feel Like It’s Embarrassing But At The End, You Will Find Help And Avoid Getting Addicted To Masturbation.

2. Don’t Watch Pornography:

Watching Porn Can Easily Lead To Masturbation. Instead Of Watching This Diminishing Videos, Try Watching Something Comical Or Non-sexual Related Content.

3. Avoid Being Alone:

Being Alone Can Prompt Ideas Of Masturbation Especially If You Have Tried It Once. Having People Around You Will Stop You From Having Such Ideas. Always Try To Be In The Public And With Time You Will Be Able To Completely Stop Masturbation.

4. Avoid Reading Articles Which Suggest Masturbation Is Good Or Not Harmful:

Reading Such Articles Will Make You Feel Like You Are Doing The Right Thing And Thus, You Will Easily Get Addicted To Masturbation. Instead, Read The Articles Suggesting That Masturbation Is Bad And Very Harmful And Can Destroy Your Relationship With God. This Way You Will Not Even Think Of Masturbation Let Alone Doing It.

Thanks for reading!!!

If this blessed you, share to bless others!!!

To read more, visit: www.drhezpey.wordpress.com or www.abstinencetillmarriage.wordpress.com or www.godlyrelationshipadvocateministry.blogspot.com

For enquires/sponsorship/partnership/counsellings: 09097964134 (WHATSAPP) or 07061522492 (VOICE CALLS)

© ODERINDE TAIWO JOEL

DR. HESPEY (2018)