SENSELESS FLIRT - BY DR. HESPEY

SENSELESS FLIRT

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

I am so sorry to use a word that looks like insult here as a topic, but the real truth is that its really nothing to be sorry about. 

Let me ask you this: what is so sensible in a flirt in the first instance? When you meet few ladies out there, they will tell you "they are using what they have, in order to get what they want".

To my own knowledge as a counsellor, i term "using what you have to get what you want" in term of ladies as A SLOGAN FOR THE WEAK and that why I am using the words "SENSELESS FLIRTS".

I am not really here to insult your personalty as a lady, but i am here to speak some senses into you. Just because you need a particular thing doesn't have to make you stoop so low by rendering yourself useless.

The fact you must know is that there should be nothing as demanding to you than the demand to keep your dignity as a Lady of great value & content.

For the fact that it is clear & visible that DESTINY DOES NOT EXIST BETWEEN your legs, meaning your sexual organ as a lady can't bring about good fortune, especially when manipulated, and the number of MEN YOU OPEN your legs FOR DOEsn't rate your ability to succeed in life. All these should open your dead head madam & lightened it up.

It will be so senseless to know as a lady that you HAVE A DESTINY FILLED MIND and you choose TO IGNORE IT AND TRADE with it in exchange for pleasure & worldly gain.

As a lady, the main dignity that comes without you working for it is your body and your virginity.

When you keep your body, you keep respect, you keep honour (for now & the future), you pursue godliness & prepare an eternal route for yourself.

Like i use to say: Sex is an instrument for marriage, it brings happiness when done rightly, but does not hold the main happiness in life. Only righteousness gives you an everlasting life of joy in Christ Jesus. 

Giving yourself out to sex just for something God can actually provide is the most senseless act and its an act of digging your own grave (both now & the world to come).

Be the wise, keep your dignity and protect your destiny from being TRADED WITH, like a coin used in the world of cryptocurrency.

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© ODERINDE TAIWO JOEL
     DR. HESPEY (2018)
(Author of Building The Godly Youth)
(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

PURITY IN SEXUAL ABSTINENCE - BY DR. HESPEY

PURITY IN SEXUAL ABSTINENCE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

After My Very First Ministration At "TRUE LOVE WAITS" 2018 Edition Organized By The Fruitful Singles Of Kajola Baptist Church Last Week, I Felt There Are More To Discuss On Purity And Its Impact On Sexual Abstinence.

One Of The Major Thing That Needs Clear Understanding Is That Physical Intimacy That Involve Sexual Activities Use To Be Always Right And Beautiful When Done Between A Husband And A Wife And It Is Sacred. This Seems To Be So Because It Is The Will Of God That Sex Should Be An Instrument Only In Marriage For The Purpose Of Creation Of Offsprings And For The Expression Of Unionism Between Husband & Wife.

What Most Singles Who Indulge In Sexual Activities Before Marriage Fails To Realize Is That, They Fail To See God's Plan As The Ultimate For Their Life. They Fail To Accept The Fact That God Has Commanded That Sexual Intimacy Be Reserved For Marriage Alone.

But The Real Truth & Fact Is That When You Are Sexually Pure, You Prepare Yourself To Make And Keep Sacred Covenants In The Temple.

Like I Said During My Ministration, For Every Act & Form Of Purity You Live As A Single Guy Or Lady, You Are Actually Sowing A Seed And Of Which It With Germinate As Time Goes On. The Result Is Always Predictable When The Right Thing Is Done But Unpredictable When Out Of Route.

One Of The Major Result Of Purity In Sexual Abstinence Is That You Prepare Yourself To Build A Strong Marriage And To Bring Children Into The World As Part Of An Eternal And Loving Family. And You Protect Yourself From The Spiritual And Emotional Damage That Come From Sharing Sexual Intimacy Outside Of Marriage.

And Lastly, Remaining Sexually Pure Helps You To Be Confident And Truly Happy And Improves Your Ability To Make Good Decisions Now And In The Future In What Relationship You Find Yourself.

In Conclusion, You Must Avoid Being Controlled By The Media, Peer Groups, Or Others To Persuade You That Sexual Intimacy Before Marriage Is Acceptable. Because In God’s Sight, Sexual Sins Are Extremely Serious.

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     DR. HESPEY (2018)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

WHAT BEING A WIFE SIGNIFY - BY DR. HESPEY

WHAT BEING A WIFE SIGNIFY

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Becoming A Wife To Some Sets Of Ladies Looks Like They Are Just Going Into Marriage To Just Cook, Sweep, Attend Occasions Together & To Raise Kids. But The Real Truth Is That Being A Wife To A Man Is More Than That. 

Being A Wife Doesn't Just Signify Or Talks About Being Beautiful And Attractive For A Man. And It's Not Just About Letting A Man Chase You, Letting Him Do Sweet Things Every Time You're Mad At Him And Not Just Receiving Flowers And Gifts During Your Anniversaries Or Going On Occasions Together.

The Real Thing About Being A Wife Is An Act Of Being Ready To Be An Emotional Partner Wherein You Will Support Your Husband In Every Opportunity That He Takes, You Will Appreciate Everything That He Does For You And You Thank Him For Doing It, You Will Remind Him On The Things He Must Do And What He Must Not. 

Just Because You Know That You Can Always Keep Him On His Feet, Doesn't Mean You Can Manipulate Him. 

Being A Wife Means You Need To Understand Him Not Just As A Partner But As Individual Too. You Help Him In Every Way And Showing Him, That In A Relationship, There’s No "I" Or "YOU", There's Only "WE" And "US". 

You Know Also That A Man Has Their Ego, And Even When It Become A Little Irritating Sometimes, You Still Understand That It's A Part Of His Nature. 

A Wife Is Not Just A Term, It Also Has Responsibilities That Every Lady Must Know. 

To Be A Wife Means You Are To Get Ready To Be A Friend, A Sister, A Mother, A Teacher, And A Best Friend To Your Spouse.

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     DR. HESPEY (2018)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

MUST LOVE BE PROVEN? - BY DR. HESPEY

MUST LOVE BE PROVEN?

CONCLUDING PART

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

In The First Part Of This Topoc, I Made Mention Of Those Who Use Sex As A Means To Prove Their Love For Their So Called Partner. Which Is Of Course The Wrong Method.

Some Tend To Use Gifts, Night Out Or A Promised Movie Night As A Means Of Ptoving Love.

The Real Question Is, WHAT IF THOSE THINGS ARE OUT? What If You No More Practice Them Due To Some Things Unpredictable Or Unexpected Cases? Does It Mean The Love Disappears With Those cases?

This Night's View Is To Let You Know That A Relationship Is Not A Prison Yard. 

That A Lady Is Your Girlfriend Does Not Mean She Shouldn't Have Male Friends Or She Should Leave Social Networks Just As A Prove Of Love To You.

A Man Shouldn't Flee From Female Friends Because He Is In A Relationship, Or He Is Expected Not To Associate With His Pals Because He Now Has A Woman In His Life And He Need To Prove His Love.

We Should Trust Our Partners And Hope They Are Faithful.

We Should Love Them Under Any Circumstances Without Expectations.

Some People Are Scared Of Being In Relationships Because They Feel Their Lives Will Be Boring, And They May Be Restricted As A Prove Of Love.

Relationships Should Be Fun And Exciting, Relationship Should Be A Place Where Freedom To Associate & Share Our Opinions, Knowing Our Allegiances Are Pledged To Our Partners.

It Shouldn't Be A Place Where There Are Pressures As To Be Sure Of Being Loved Or Being In Love.

Let freedom rule your relationship & graduate to your marriage.

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© ODERINDE TAIWO JOEL

     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

MUST LOVE BE PROVEN? - BY DR. HESPEY

MUST LOVE BE PROVEN?

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

The only definition I found regarding TRUE LOVE is that True Love is always letting go. This is so, because Freedom and free will are the by-products of Love in my discovery.

So many of us lead our lives holding on so tightly that nothing new, nothing miraculous can find us.

I have been teaching for few years that holding on is what makes us strong, holding on is what Love is made of and is the best answer. But it seems we are stepping into a new paradigm. We are stepping into a time where growth and Love lead the way.

This means we are constantly changing, evolving, dying and being reborn.

But What must come first should be our own spiritual growth. This means listening to our intuition, trusting our gut and expressing ourselves authentically without hiding.

One of the major reason why LOVE PROVING isn't necessary is because Our relationships have been sent to us, to teach us, to mold us and to shape us.

When we seek Love, The Uni-verse sends us all kinds of relationships that bring to the surface all the blocks we have to Love. But when all this happens, what We must do is to learn to identify when the lessons are over.

One of the greatest headaches of many young ladies in relationship is the issue of sex. While they find themselves entangled in love, they also would not want to offend God by fornicating.

Meanwhile, most young men of today are always demanding for sex before marriage as a proof of love. If a lady hereby denies her boyfriend (fiance) sex, he tends to think she either does not love him or she is seeing another guy. And this throws the lady into so much confusion. She genuinely loves the guy but wouldn't want to give in to sex. If she denies him, she may lose him and if she gives in too she disobeys God. Sorry to our ladies.

Gentlemen, please know that it is absolutely a lie from the pit of hell that if your fiancee does not give you sex it shows she doesn't love you. How can you use sex as a LOVEOMETRE? Have you never heard of those who slept with ladies they didn't truly love? If you haven't then let me tell you that many people are having sex with people they never love. And the men are themselves the worst culprits.

If sex is a proof of love then we have to conclude that prostitutes love all the men they sleep with.

If sex is a proof of love then we have to go about sleeping with our best friends and even family members just to show them how deeply we love them.

Get it straight that Even married couples, do not have sex to prove their love. They rather have sex because sex is part of marriage and it is meant for both procreation and recreation - child birth and enjoyment. 

Seeking love from sex or using sex as a proof of love is like going to hell with a white linen.

Relationships are containers for growth, not opportunities to suffer so we can prove how much we “love” someone. And a relationship isn’t full if both people aren’t in self-love and then sharing their love with each other from a place of overflow.

Its unnecessary to kill yourself just to prove Love, but instead invoke Love in your lives and recognize that the Love of The Uni-verse IS the purifier and the teacher. Know and accept that fact that The face of Love may change, but the energy of Love of The Uni-verse never changes.

In conclusion, Let us no longer try to prove our Love by how much we can hold on to toxic situations like offering sex, gifts and so on, but rather by how much we are willing to let go once the lesson has been learnt.

I DR. HESPEY, as a young counsellor, have never come across a rulebook for this principle of love proving.

This are some things we must each learn individually and grow into.

We must each learn that The Universe is setup so that we all can have free will to choose to connect to Love, or not. And We must learn to give ourselves this freedom as well as all the people in our lives.

To me, Love does not seek to control, but rather gives freedom. If you give yourself or those in your life this freedom, my dear, you will enjoy life enough & more than being QUESTIONED for LOVE.

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For enquires/sponsorship/partnership/counsellings: 09097964134 (WHATSAPP) or 07061522492 (VOICE CALLS)

© ODERINDE TAIWO JOEL

     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)