SEX, NOT THE MOST PRIORITIZED - BY DR. HESPEY

SEX, NOT THE MOST PRIORITIZED

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

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This Article Is Written To Both My Single Readers & Couples. Just As The Way Lustful Youths Sees SEX As An INSTRUMENT And The Most TO-BE-USED During Their Relationship Is Just The Same Way Most Couples Sees SEX As A PRIORITY And The Most PRIORITIZED In Their Marriage.

Though Sex Is An IMPORTANT ELEMENT In MARRIAGE, And As Far I Am Concern, Until There Is Sexual Intercourse Between A Husband And A Wife, The Marriage Is Not Yet SPIRITUALLY RECOGNISED. Because The Bible Speaks Of Situations Where Few Men Knew (had sex with) Their Wives. This Biblically Shows How Important Sex Is Only In The Court Of Marriage.

But As A Case Study, When I Study How Agressive Most Men Use To Be Regarding Sex, It Came To My Mind That Most Of Them Only See Women As An Object Of Sex Alone And They Tend To See Sex As Their Major Priority In Their Marriage.

A Type Of Relationship That Demands For Sex During Dating Or Courtship Is Likely To Be The One That Depends On Sex After Their Wedding, And Of Which They Go Against What Real Marriage Is Meant To Be. 

The Real Fact That I Need You To Know Is That "What A Man Needs Most From A Woman Is Never Sex And It Can Never Be Sex Alone.

Many Young Girls Think Because They Are Sexually Active And Experience They Will Easily Be Married And Have Their Husbands Loving Them. And When A Man Approaches Them For Marriage They Think The Greatest Asset They Have To Show Or Offer The Man Is Sex. Meanwhile, Others Also Think Once They Are Giving Out Their Bodies It Means They Are Giving Out The Best For Which Reason They Will Be Chosen Above All.

For Instance, There Is This Young Girl Who Is Very Beautiful And Sexually Active. Due To That She Thought Sex Is All That Matters To A Man. Ironically, She Struggled For Long Before Finally Getting Married. Her Sexual Dexterity Could Not Win Her The Heart Of A Man Until A Very Handsome Good Man Married Her. The Wedding Was Grand And Her Tears Were Now Gone. Unfortunately Only A Year After The Wedding, The Marriage Fell On Rocks. Within Five Years Three Different Men Came Her Way But None Could Stay. This Happened Because She Thought Sex Was All That Matters Just Like Others Use To Be Too Aggressive Towards It, So She Would Never Submit To Her Man.

But The Real Sense Is, Sex Is Just An Instrument, Meant To Be Used Once In A While in marriage, Because Submission Is What Responsible Men Need, Not Sex. And As A Medical Practitioner, I Have Discovered That Excessive Sexual Activities Leads To Many Deadly Diseases Which Will Be Another Topic Entirely To Be Discussed In My Next Article.

It Is High Time For Our Young Ladies, Guys, Married Men & Women To Know That Marriage Will Not Look Out For SEXUAL SATISFACTION Only, But Marriage Requires Submission And Responsibilities.

The Holy Bible Mandated It By Saying, "All Wives Should Submit To Their Husband." And Regarding Submission, I Have Come To Learn That A Man's True Love Only Goes Out To A Woman Who Is Submissive To Him. And The Real Truth That I Must Let You Know Is That Your SEXUAL ACTIVENESS Cannot Make Another Woman Ugly In The Presence Of Your Man, But Your HUMILITY Can Let Him Love You Above All Other Women.

Marriage Requires HUMILITY As A PRIORITY." So Be You A Guy Or Lady, When You Are Humble, You Will Be An EXPENSIVE JEWELRY Of Which A Man/Woman Of High Integrity Will Fear To Lose You.

And Lastly, I Will Like To Change Your Perspective Towards What SUBMISSION Is.

Never You See SUBMISSION As Being "IN CONTROL OF." Your SUBMISSIVE Heart Doesn't Mean You Will Be Dominate On. The Truth Is If You See SUBMISSION As Being Under Someone, This Will Only Make You Raise Your PRIDE And PUSH THE RIGHT PERSON AWAY. The LACK OF SUBMISSION Just Simply Means Your Heart Is Actually Greater Than Your Height, And Get It Straight, No Man Will Ever Settle For Such, Not To Talk Of Loving Such.

I Pray The Good Lord Will Give Us All His Full Understanding And Direct Us On What Real Marriage Means And What Its Requirements Are in Jesus name.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

RELATIONSHIP SATISFACTION - BY DR. HESPEY

RELATIONSHIP SATISFACTION

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Nowadays, Unsatisfactory Relationships Are What Most Singles See Themselves In. The Tend Not To Be Contented With What They Have And Keep Yelling For More. But I Am Here To Give You Just Few Tip On What To Do In A Time Like This.

Contentment, Also Termed As Satisfaction Isn’t An Excited Kind Of Happy, To Me, It’s More Like A Peaceful Ease Of Mind. It’s Being Satisfied With What You Have, Whatever That Is. You Might Feel A Sense Of Contentment Knowing You Have The Best Or You Might Experience Contentment Thinking About The What The Future Holds. Whatever Is Going On In Your Life, You Need To Be Pleased About It.

My Dear Single Lady, Your Boyfriend May Not Own A Car, Probably Because He Isn't Earning A Lot Of Money Yet And That Doesn't Bring Him Close To Live In A Posh Estate. And Most Times Or He May Not Or Has Never Been Able To Shower You With Gifts Simply Because He Doesn't Have A Great Job Yet.

But There Is This Fact That I Really Want You To Know, It’s Enough For You To Know That You Are The Only One He Has At His Heart. 

All Those Things That Shows Riches Msy Not Be Visible Now, But Know That He Has A Vision And He Is Working Towards Honesty And That's The Reason Why He Is Very Hard-working And Humble. 

My Dear Singles, Appreciate That Guy/Lady In Your Life Who Strives To Be All You Need. Though, He/She May Not Be All The Things You Need Right Now But With Time Believe Me, He/She Will Be What You Desire. He Will Get A Good Paying Job, He Will Get The Money, He Will Buy A Land And He Will Build A House For Both Of You. As Far As Consistency Is Involved.

Satisfaction Is What You Need My Dear Singles, After Satisfaction, Just Kindly Add Little Patience If You Seriously Love Him/Her And You Are Willing To Stay. 

Don't Be Pushed Around By Money And What You Want To Eat At The Moment And Avoid Comparison.

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© ODERINDE TAIWO JOEL

     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

TRUE ABSTINENCE - BY DR. HESPEY

TRUE ABSTINENCE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

​You May Have Heard People Talk About Abstinence In Different Ways. Some People Think Of Abstinence As Not Having Vaginal Intercourse. They May Enjoy Other Kinds Of Sex Play That Don't Lead To Pregnancy. But To Me, This Is Best Described As Outercourse.

Some People Define Abstinence As Not Having Vaginal Intercourse When A Woman Might Get Pregnant.

This Is Better Described As Period Of Abstinence, Which Is One Of The Fertility Awareness-based Methods Of Birth Control.

As Far As I Am Concern, Abstinence, Also Referred To As Celibacy, Is The Choice To Avoid Participating In Sexual Behaviors. Since The Term “sexual Behavior” Is Defined Differently By Various People, Societies, Cultures, Religions, And Regions, It Is Difficult To Draw An Absolute Line Distinguishing Which Acts Are Considered “sexual Behaviors.”

Meanwhile, The Very Best Definition And Practice Of True Abstinence Is A Person Not Having Any Kind Of Sex Play With A Partner, Either Of The Same Sex Or The Opposite Sex. And This Is The Definition I Best Accept.

True abstinence avoids kissing, passionate hugging, and all sort of sexual immoralities.

Being Continuously Abstinent Is The Only Way To Be Absolutely Sure That You Won't Have An Unintended Pregnancy Or Get A Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI).

For True Abstinence, The Word Play Safe Isn't In Use, Its An Odd Word. Because Nothing Is As Safe As Being Pure.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

THE REAL WOMAN - BY DR. HESPEY

THE REAL WOMAN

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Welcoming You Guys To The New Year After The Successful Completion Of The Last Article Titled: 10 Commandments For Godly Relationships, This New Year, I Want To Start By Addressing The Queens In The House By Sharing Few Things About REAL WOMEN And What It Takes To Become One.

A REAL WOMAN Is Not Just Beautiful Or Confident Because Of Her Flawlessness, Complexion Or The Curves On Her Body.

The REAL WOMAN is the woman who see God as the first, she sells not what she knows belongs to her destined man, she goes not out of the will of God for her life and she is a respecter of God's plan.

The Real Fact That I Want To Pass Across Is That A REAL WOMAN Is Always Determined, Driven And Able To Accomplish Great Feats. Her Ability To Be So Strong Is Derived From Her Own Knowledge, Intuition And Ambition.

In The Face Of Adversity She Is Able To Tap The Proper Resources To Conquer Any Problem, Instead Of Just Giving Up, By Being Patient And She Has The Right Amount Of Drama To Share With Her Man. Both Positive And Negative. 

The Fact Is That Whether Personally Or Professionally, This Real Woman Has Great Goals And Desires. This REAL WOMAN Knows That With The Right Amount Of Inspiration And Motivation Anything Is Possible And Is Willing To Do What It Takes To Make Her Dreams A Reality.

A REAL WOMAN Is Confident Because She Is Not Insecure About Losing The Beauty Of Her Heart And Soul To Another Woman And She Is Not Beautiful Because She Is A Certain Size Or Weight On The Scale.

She Is Simply Beautiful Because She Knows That Every Woman Has A Unique Personality Of Which She Is One Of Them And She Refuses To Be Compared To Any Other Woman.

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© ODERINDE TAIWO JOEL

     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)