TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS - BY DR. HESPEY

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS

PART 8

DON'T REPLACE GOD WITH HUMAN IN TERMS OF THINGS

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

To The Knowledgeable Ones About The Scripture, One Of The Names And Attributes Of God Is “the Provider”.

A Believer In A God For This Universe Necessarily Believes That This God Is A Provider. God Is Surely The Provider, Along With Whom There Is No Other Provider.

Romans 9:16

So Then It Is Not Of Him That Willeth, This Is Not A Consequence Drawn By An Adversary, Showing That If This Be The Case, It Signifies Nothing For Men To Will Or Do, They May Even Sit Still And Do Nothing, But Depend On The Mercy Of God; But This Is A Conclusion Of The Apostle's From The Above Cited Testimony, Inferring From Thence, That Election, Which Is What He Is Discoursing Of, Is "Not Of Him That Willeth", Nor Of Him That Runneth: That Is, Is Not Owing To The Will Or Works Of Men, To The Desires, Inclinations, And Affections Of Their Minds, Or To The Actions Of Their Lives; These Are Not The Motives, Conditions, Or Causes Of This Act: But Of God That Sheweth Mercy;

The main point here is that the Lord we serve is the only provider, look not up to your partner as far as dating is concern for anything God can actually provide. Looking up to your partner can prompt you to engage in negativities.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS - BY DR. HESPEY

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS

PART 7

BE IN A COMMUNITY OF WISE CHRISTIANS

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

In one of the past part of this write up, I made mention of knowing who and who you are to be in a relationship with. There should be selectivity when it comes to those that will impact you positively & negatively.

So The reason why you need to be surrounded by these sets of people mentioned above is because Spiritually Wise Christianity knows that this life down here is a battle and there is a constant battle going on within our spiritual hearts all the time.

The apostle Paul writes about this battle that so wars against the Holy Spirit and is constantly urging us to give in to its power.

Galatians 5:17 says, “For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want.”

A “Spiritually Wise Christian” knows that there is a battle for the child of God’s heart, mind, and soul. There is that enemy the New American Standard Bible calls “…the flesh [which] sets its desire against the [Holy] Spirit.” (Galatians 5:17) The King James hits the source right upon the head when it translated this verse as, “For the flesh lusteth against the [Holy] Spirit.”

The key word that the wise Christian focuses on in this particular passage of Scripture is “lusteth” (epithumeo) meaning to have a yearning passion for.

The practical application is that it has a pulling effect that grabs you and won’t let go. This causes the child of God or lost sinner to desire, to want, to crave, to hunger, to thirst, to grasp and actually take a hold of that which destroys or inhibits a healthy relationship with Christ.

But if you surround yourself with these wise Christians, they will lead & guide you through certain things of which you need to know about. These wise Christians may be your mentor, pastor, teacher or counsellor.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS - BY DR. HESPEY

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS

PART 6

COMPROMISE NOT THE VALUES

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

There are some values in your relationship that needed to be maintain if perhaps you want a successful & god-fearing relationship with your partner. I will list few here & discuss about them in a short way.

•. Trust

Trust is one of the most important factors in a relationship. If you don't trust the person you are with, then it is probably not a healthy, stable relationship and you most likely feel insecure about it. Trust grows stronger over time and can definitely be built - a lack of trust early on in the relationship just means there is work to do.

•. Honesty

Being truthful and honest is major when it comes to relationships. A relationship built on false hope and white lies will only crumble in the end, no matter how much you love the other person. Being honest leads to good communication, which can strengthen many aspects of a relationship.

•. Respect

Regardless of sounding like a cliché, love can be binding especially when it comes to self-worth. No amount of love is worth giving up who you are and the respect you deserve. Love is not a justification for disrespect or abuse. Partners must be respectful of each other and who they are for a healthy relationship to grow.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

EFFECTS OF PREMARITAL SEX - BY DR. HESPEY

​EFFECTS OF PREMARITAL SEX

PART 5

"YOU DEVELOP "SOUL TIES"

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

What Many Singles Fail To Realize Is That Their Soul Joins With The Soul Or Souls Of Those They Engages Every Act Of Premarital Sex With.

I Will Call This “SOUL TIES,” Because Your Soul Is Actually Being Tied Or Entangled Together With The Soul Of The Person You Had Sex.

Soul Ties Can Be Considered Carry-on Luggage.

It Is Unwanted, Hindering, Emotionally Draining Baggage That Attaches Itself To Your Soul Everytime You Sexually Involve Yourself With Someone Outside Of Marriage.

Not Only Are You Carrying On The Baggage Of The Person You Have Sex With, But Every Person They Had Sex With And So On And So On.

Now, That’s A Lot Of Baggage.

You Get Involved With The Wrong Crowd. (1corinthians 15:33) Says, “bad Company Corrupts Good Morals.”

Don’t Fool Yourself Into Thinking That You Can Hang Around Sexually Active People Who Drink And Not Be Influenced By Their Actions.

When You Begin Making Bad Decisions, You Often Find Yourself Surrounded By Others Who Are Making The Same Bad Decisions.

Don’t Fool Yourself Into Believing That You Can Hang Out With People That Are Living Wild And Unrestrained And Not Be Affected.

(Galatians 6:7) Says, “be Not Deceived God Is Not Mocked, For Whatsoever A Man Soweth (Plants), That Shall He Also Reap (Produce).”

This Is Just One Of The Major Reason Why You Still Need To Be Extra Careful With Who & Whom You Choose To Be Around You. Life Is Too Short To Be Surrounded By The Wrong Sets Of People.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS - BY DR. HESPEY

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS

PART 5

UNEQUALLY YOKE WITH UNBELIEVERS

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

When you I speak about UNEQUALLY YOKED,
Question: "What does it mean to be unequally yoked?" Arises.

The phrase “unequally yoked” comes from 2 Corinthians 6:14 & It says: “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” (KJV).

The New American Standard Version says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?”

To me, I see a yoke as a wooden bar or glue that joins two oxen to each other and to the burden they pull. An “unequally yoked” team has one stronger ox and one weaker, or one taller and one shorter.

The weaker or shorter ox would walk more slowly than the taller, stronger one, causing the load to go around in circles. When oxen are unequally yoked, they cannot perform the task set before them. Instead of working together, they are at odds with one another.

Paul’s admonition in 2 Corinthians 6:14 is part of a larger discourse to the church at Corinth on the Christian life. He discouraged them from being in an unequal partnership with unbelievers because believers and unbelievers are opposites, just as light and darkness are opposites.

They simply have nothing in common, just as Christ has nothing in common with “Belial,” a Hebrew word meaning “worthlessness” as found in (verse 15). Here Paul uses it to refer to Satan. The idea is that the pagan, wicked, unbelieving world is governed by the principles of Satan and that Christians should be separate from that wicked world, just as Christ was separate from all the methods, purposes, and plans of Satan. He had no participation in them; He formed no union with them, and so it should be with the followers of the one in relation to the followers of the other.

Attempting to live a Christian life with a non-Christian for our close friend and ally will only cause us to go around in circles.

The “unequal yoke” is often applied to business relationships. For a Christian to enter into a partnership with an unbeliever is to court disaster. Unbelievers have opposite worldviews and morals, and business decisions made daily will reflect the worldview of one partner or the other.

For the relationship to work, one or the other must abandon his moral center and move toward that of the other. More often than not, it is the believer who finds himself pressured to leave his Christian principles behind for the sake of profit and the growth of the business.

Of course, the closest alliance one person can have with another is found in marriage, and this is how the passage is usually interpreted. God’s plan is for a man and a woman to become “one flesh” (Genesis 2:24), a relationship so intimate that one literally and figuratively becomes part of the other. Uniting a believer with an unbeliever is essentially uniting opposites, which makes for a very difficult marriage relationship.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS - BY DR. HESPEY

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS

PART 4

KNOW YOUR IDEAL MATCH (COMPATIBILITY)

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

According to other marriage counsellors, compatibility is a key to a life-long partnership.  “Compatibility is more important than love, believe it or not, and it goes hand in hand with respect and communication at the top,”. I won't talk much here on compatibility, because it a topic already spoken about in my book, titled: BUILDING THE GODLY YOUTH. So if perhaps you don't have a copy, try get one. It is very essential.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

PURITY LESSON - BY DR. HESPEY

PURITY LESSON

LESSON 4

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

As A Counsellor, There Are Some Sets Of Guys & Ladies That Are Probably Thinking That It Is Too Late For Them To Be Purified After Being A Victim.

If Probably You’ve Already Had Sex, You Might Think That It’s Too Late To Be Abstinent. But What I Have Gathered Is That This Perspective Is Far From The Truth And It Is 100% False.

What You Must Know Is That Today Decides What Tomorrow Will Look Like. See, The Stuff You Do With Your Life Now Affects The Way Your Life Will Be Later.

Even If You’ve Made Mistakes In The Past, You Still Want To Give Yourself The Best Chance For Succeeding In The Future.

So Due To That Mistake, But A Change In Heart, I Recommend Secondary Virginity:

Know & Believe That Your Past Is Your Past And Its Gone Forever.

Maybe You Made Some Mistakes.

Haven’t We All Made One Mistake Or The Other?

Let’s Deal With Today And Forget About Yesterday.

For Starters, You Should Set Up An Appointment With Your Doctor.

Be Honest And Tell Your Physician About Your Sexual History So He Or She Has The Information They Need To Properly Care For You.

You’re No Longer A Virgin, But A Secondary Virginity Is All About Second Chances And You Got One Right Now.

Make A Commitment Starting From Today, That You Will Not Have Sex Again Until Your Wedding Night.

And Stand By Your New Commitment Without Compromise.

It’s Way More Than Do-able.

Make It Easier, Tell Your Friends About Your Decision And Ask Them To Encourage You To Help You Keep It.

You Need To Have Support In This One.

And Let The People You Date Know Where You Stand On This Issue.

It Will Help You Figure Out Who Really Cares About You, Not Just Your Body.

Consider Spending More Time In Groups And Less Time Alone With A Date.

And Avoid Situations That Include The Use Of Drugs And Alcohol.

They Can Cloud Your Judgment And Numb Your Ability To Stay In Control.

Give It A Try.

You Won’t Regret It. Abstinence Is Rewarding!!!

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)