TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS - BY DR. HESPEY

​TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS

PART 3

DEFINING LIMITS TO ROMANTIC AFFAIRS

WRITTEN BY DR HESPEY

In This Third Commandment For Godly Relationships, I Think There Is A Great Need For Me To Touch The Aspect Of Romance It.

A Romantic Affair Which Is Also & Commonly Known As An Affair Of The Heart, May Refer To Sexual Liaisons Among Unwed Or Wedded Parties, Or To Various Forms Of Relationship. But Today, I Am Referring To Romantic Affairs Among The Unwedded Parties.

Unlike A Casual Relationship, Which Is A Physical And Emotional Relationship Between Two People Who May Have Sex Without Expecting A More Formal Romantic Relationship, An Affair Is By Its Nature Romantic.

Affair May Also Describe Part Of An Agreement Within An Open Marriage Or Open Relationship, Such As Swinging, Dating, Or Polyamory, In Which Some Forms Of Sex With One's Non-primary Partner(S) Are Permitted And Other Forms Are Not.

Participants In Open Relationships, Including Unmarried Couples And Polyamorous Families, May Consider Sanctioned Affairs The Norm, But When A Non-sanctioned Affair Occurs, It Is Described As Infidelity And May Be Experienced As Adultery, Or A Betrayal Both Of Trust And Integrity, Even Though To Most People It Would Not Be Considered "Illicit".

When A Romantic Affair Lacks Both Overt And Covert Sexual Behavior And Yet Exhibits Intense Or Enduring Emotional Intimacy It May Be Referred To As An Emotional Affair, Platonic Love, Or A Romantic Friendship.

So AS Godly Ones, Every Sort Of Affairs That Is Of God should be cleared out.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

EFFECTS OF PREMARITAL SEX - BY DR. HESPEY

EFFECTS OF PREMARITAL SEX

PART 4

SELF-DESTRCTIVE BEHAVIOUR

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

As A Christian & Counsellor, What I Have Come To Learn Is That When You Engage In Premarital Sex, You Are Consciously Sinning Against God. Of Which It Can Lead To A Perpetual Cycle Of Self-destruction.

You Develop Low Self-esteem, Low Self-worth, And Diminished Expectations Of Yourself.

In Many Cases, The Devastation That Comes From Giving A Holy Thing (Your Body, The Temple Of The Holy Spirit) To An Unholy Cause, (Physical Gratification Outside Of Marriage) Will Lead To Feelings Of:

Emptiness,

Embarrasement &

Confusion.

You Begin To Question Everything About Yourself And The World, As You Know It.

Just The Way Adam And Eve Realized Their Nakedness After Their Sin Which Cost Them Their Home (A Beautiful Garden Where God Dwells), You Realize Your Nakedness Before God, And Because You Are Not Equipped To Deal With It At Such An Early Age, You Sink Into An Abyss Of Self-loathing And Destructive Behavior.

Many Students’ Grades Drop And They Lose Interest In Things That They Once Enjoyed After Having Sex.

This Doesn,T Just Happen, It Happens When They Remember Feeling Super Insecure About Almost Everything After They Had Sex.

If They Felt Insecure About It Before Sex, It Was Only Worsened Afterward.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS - BY DR. HESPEY

​TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS

PART 2

ABSTAINING FROM ALL SORTS OF SEXUAL ACTIVITIES & BE PURE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

This second part is just as important as the first. Given our culture's obsession with sex, it's amazing to think about all the things we don't talk about when it comes to sex.

Take for example the term "having sex."  Do you remember learning for the first time what that meant?  If you do, it probably had something to do with intercourse. 

But in practice, as an adult, do you only say you had sex when intercourse was involved?  Probably not. 

Which brings us to a basic question we rarely talk about:  What is included in having sex and what isn't? 

Lots of questions has always been raised, questions like, When does a touch become a sexual activity?

Let me start by giving us the my own definition of Sex:

As far as I am concern, and with my little young knowledge, One definition of a sexual activity is any behavior that someone engages in alone, or consensually with others, that is considered sexual by the people engaging in it. 

In other words if everyone involved wants to do it, and thinks of it as sexual, then it's reasonable to call it sex (for them).  

Two important caveats. First, consent is key here, because of the activity isn't consensual, then it isn't sex, it's sexual assault or rape. Second, just because one person thinks of an activity as sex doesn't mean everyone will.  Some people consider tickling a part of sex.  Others would say it's torture.

Defining certain activities as sex won't ever work outside of a particular community and time.  Sex doesn't happen in a vacuum and what is sexual changes over time, and is influenced by culture, gender, class, ethnicity, and more.

But since so few of us talk about this, and most of us are told that "real sex" equals intercourse a list of some of the many ways people have sex might be useful.

The List In No Particular Order are:

Kissing: using lips to touch and feel any part of someone else's body.

Giving or getting hickeys (using your teeth and mouth to leave temporary marks on a partners body).

Oral sex: using your mouth to stimulate a partner's genitals (cunnilingus, fellatio, analingus).

Using another body part (hands, elbows, feet, whatever works) to stimulate a partners genitals (penis and scrotum, vulva, vagina, and clitoris, anus and rectum, inguinal canals/muffing).

Non-genital sexual touch: using another body part (hands, elbows, feet, whatever works) to erotically touch or explore your own or your partner's whole body.

Edging:  bringing your partner (or yourself) to the edge of a sexual climax, then pulling back and playing with the line.

Tickling.

Massage: using any part of your body to sensually touch and relax any part of your own or a partner's body.

Dry humping, fully clothed rubbing of your body with someone else's body (frottage).

Naked body rubbing, rubbing genitals together without penetration (tribadism).

Chest, breast, and/or nipple stimulation.

Masturbation: stimulating yourself for sexual pleasure.

Mutual masturbation: stimulating yourself with one or more person present.

Ejaculating during sex. And having non-ejaculatory orgasms.

Sex toys: using alone or with a partner.

The "B" in BDSM: Restricting your own or a partner's movement during sex (tying up, restraining body parts).

Restricting your own or a partner's senses during sex (wearing headphones, blindfold, covering parts of the body so they can't be touched).

Pinching, spanking, or slapping for sexual pleasure.

Vaginal intercourse: using a penis or strap on.

Anal intercourse: (using a penis or strap-on).

There is a great need to do away with all of this if perhaps you actually want a better and founded relationship, of which God is the source.

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS - BY DR. HESPEY

​TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR GODLY RELATIONSHIPS

PART 1

SEEING GOD AS THE PLANNER, SOURCE OF STRENGTH & WISDOM

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

In this first part of the commandments, the Fundamental Starting Point For All Other Relationships Is One’s Relationship With God. What you must know is that If Our Relationship With God Is Wrong, The Foundation Has Been Laid For All Other Relationships To Be Fundamentally Flawed.

The Essence Of A Wrong Relationship With God Is To Place Greater Value On Anything Or Anyone Than The Value One Recognizes In God.

I Once Had A Young Man Admit That He Had Been Living A Self-centered Life, Declaring That He Was Going To Abandon This Approach. In Response To This Declaration, I Thought, “good.” He Proceeded To State, “I Am Going To Live To Please My Wife And Daughter.”

To This, I Thought, “not Good,” and I replied him saying, Unless You Live To Please God Supremely, Your Wife Will Never Have The Husband God Wants Her To Have And Your Daughter Will Never Have The Father God Wants Her To Have.”

So the main key that must be noted is that Proper Relationship With God Is The Foundation For Approaching All Other Relationships Properly.

A Right Relationship With God Is Based On The Recognition And Full Embrace Of His Intrinsic Supremacy. It Is Not Based On Using God As A Means Of Furthering One’s Selfish Interests, but rather it is Giving God Permission To Take You To Heaven, Bless You, “save” You Or Any Other Variation Of A Self-centered Proposition.

Jesus Stated, “if Anyone Wishes To Come After Me, He Must Deny Himself, And Take Up His Cross And Follow Me. For Whoever Wishes To Save His Life Will Lose It; But Whoever Loses His Life For My Sake Will Find It” (Mt.16:24-25).

I Find It Hard To Believe That There Is A General Assumption That Correcting One’s Relationship With God Is A Simple Matter Of Saying A Few Magical Words Or Merely Asking For Forgiveness When, In Fact, One’s Heart Has Never Changed, Requesting Religious Party-favors For A Supremely Selfish Motive.

It Is Significant To Understand That God Desires That We Have A Right Relationship With Him, Not Because He Is Ultimately Self-centered And Egotistically Wants Personal Recognition (Glory). He Knows That The Only True Foundation For Love, Blessing, Peace And Prosperity To Exist In Any Other Area Of Life Is Under His Loving Guidance.

Therefore, We Must Do Our Best To Preach, Teach And Declare An Accurate Message Of Repentance Towards God And Faith In The Lord Jesus Christ.’

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

EFFECTS OF PREMARITAL SEX - BY DR. HESPEY

​EFFECT OF PREMARITAL SEX

PART 3

SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES (STD’s)

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

As a young medical practitioner, one of the most known and clearly observed effect of FORNICATION among singles is this. The spread of this diseases through sexual contact is not a pretty picture.

STD’s reveal themselves through

Burning,

Itching,

Oozing, and Pus filled sores on your genitals.

Now that’s gross!

Even if you don’t visibly see a sore on your genitals it does not mean that you have not been infected. Let’s see, you can either practice self-control and wait until you are married to have sex, or you can take your chances and hope you don’t catch anything that will require shots or taking medication several times a day.

Have you ever seen the commercials with attractive young people who are talking about having herpes?

They say things like, “I only have to take such and such medication five times a day and I feel great.

”That’s ridiculous.

They are insulting our intelligence.

Some STD’s are incurable. If you catch them you have them for life.

That’s a lifetime prison sentence, in exchange for a moment of pleasure with someone you may not even like in three days to come.

I have someone I counselled whose little sister contracted herpes the first time she had sex.

I’m no mathematician, but that just doesn’t seem to add up.

MAKE A CHANGE & HELP THY FUTURE!!!

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(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

EFFECTS OF PREMARITAL SEX - BY DR. HESPEY

​EFFECTS OF PREMARITAL SEX

PART 2

TEEN PREGNANCY

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Almost Everybody Who Engages In Premarital Sex Knows That It Often Leads To Unplanned Or Unwanted Pregnancies.

Teenagers However Have More Odds Stacked Against Them Than Older Women Do.

In My Study Concerning This, Statistics Suggest Teens Are Two Times More Likely To Die In Childbirth Or Pregnancy Than Older Women Are.

This Seems To Be So Because They Have:

Difficult Deliveries,

Scarring,

Stretchmarks,

Low Birth Weight Babies,

Along With The Standard Sagging Breast And Tummy,

Weight Gain,

Nausea,

Tears And Dark Circles Under Their Eyes.

Why Would You Want To Deal With All Of This Unnecessary Drama In The Prime Of Your Life?

Could This Be Why God Tells Us To Stay Pure Until We Are Married?

He Knows The Impacts Of Sex On Our Body. That Is Why He Called It Fornication When Done Before Its Time.

And (Romans 6:23) Says, “for The Wages Of Sin Is Death…” God Is Our Heavenly Father.

The Same Way Your Earthly Father Wants To Protect You From Harm, God Desires So Much More To Protect You From The Effects (Or Wages) Of Sin On Your Body And Your Soul.

Stay Pure & Health, Protect The Body Of Christ & Make It Clean.

May You Be Given The Grace In Jesus Name!!!

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     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

SECONDARY PURITY LESSON - BY DR. HESPEY

SECONDARY PURITY LESSON

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

There Are Just Few Things I Think We All Need To Know About Purity & Re-purity. The Fact Remains That Your Virginity Is A Major Asset And It's Something That You Can Give To Only One Person And You Can Give It Out Just Once In A Lifetime.

Once Lost, You Cannot Get It Back Physically, But My Dear, God Permit A Second Time, And This Is Where I Will Introduce SECONDARY PURITY. You Can Get Back Your Inner Virginity which is your Purity.

In Another Form It Is Called “SECONDARY VIRGINITY, But here I am Calling It SECONDARY PURITY Today.

So Then, What Is SECONDARY PURITY In Term Of Virginity?

SECONDARY PURITY To Me Is Defined As An Act Or Intention To Choose To Say NO To Any Further Sexual Activity Until Marriage And Living With That Decision Till The D Day (WEDDING).

There Is This Saying I Use In My Counsellings, It Goes Thus: YOU BECOME EXACTLY WHAT YOU CHOOSE TO BECOME.

This Simply Means, If You Make This Choice And Live It Out, You Will Become A Different Person Just As You've Choosen To.

It Is A Common Saying That, Once You Have Been A Victim Of Sexual Activities Before Marriage, You Will Keep On Doing It. They See It As A Continuous Event. In Fact, They Will Tell You That You Won't Be Able To Utter The Word NO When Sex Needs You.”

This Is Never The Real Line My Dear, Get This Straight, Its Just Their Own Saying, And That's The Limitation Of Their Knowledge.

My Dear, You Can Change! You Can Become A New Leave If You Choose To.

Just Because You've Once Been A Victim Does Not Mean You Should Continue Being A Victim Of Ungodliness.

If Perhaps You've Been A Victim Of Wrong Circumstance Before, This Doesn't Mean You Have To Live The Whole Of Your Life Falling Victim Of That Same Wrong Circumstance.  

So My Dear Reader, Because You Made A Mistake In Getting Involved With Sex Does Not Mean That You Have To Keep On Making That Silly Mistake.

You Can Choose To Be Different Again By Choosing SECONDARY PURITY.

Thousands Of Teens Make This Choice everyday! And I Have Testimonies Of Some.

Though Whichever Thing You Choose To Do Has To Do With Your Knowledge About That Thing.

Most Teenagers Choose Purity For A Number Of Reasons Of Which I Discovered In A Interview With Some.

Some Choose It Because They Realized That Their Past Was Actually A Wrong One. While Some Got Tired Of Being Used And Dumped.

Meanwhile, Some Were Actually Scared Of Aids And The Other Sexually Transmitted Diseases.

Some Learned The Lesson Of Purity In Wrong Way And They Came Back To Their Senses. 

Some Actually Choose Purity To Avoid An Occurrence Of Unwanted Pregnancy That Will Bring Abortion To Their Mind And Damage Their Organ.

The Fact Remains That Whatever You Enjoy From Every Act Of Premarital Sex Will Never Be Of Equal Percentage With What It Will Cost You. It Cost A Lot.

When You Choose SECONDARY PURITY, Its One Of The Best Decision By Allowing Christ To Take Over You. And One Of The Wonderful Things About Taking Jesus As Your Savior Is That God Makes You A New Person.

This Decision Makes God To Click On The DELETE BUTTON And Wipes Out Your Past And You Automatically Become A New Person In Christ Jesus.

You Are As Clean And Pure In God’s Sight As Christ Himself. Because In The Bible, He Said, Just As Christ Is In The World, So Are We.

So "If Anyone Is In Christ, He Is A New Creation: Old Things Are Passed Away; Behold, All Things Are Become New” Just As Found In (2 Corinthians 5:17).

Dears Brothers & Sisters: 

I Urge You This Present Moment, Know The Truth, Walk In It, Live With It, & Let Thy Ways Be Clean.

I Pray The Lord Help You.

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© ODERINDE TAIWO JOEL

     DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)