ALLURING SEXUAL VIOLENCE
WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY
Sexual violence is a serious public health and human rights problem with both short-term and long-term consequences on women's physical, mental, and sexual and reproductive health. Whether sexual violence occurs in the context of an intimate partnership, within the larger family or community structure, or during times of conflict, it is a deeply violating and painful experience for its survivor.
Sexual violence is defined as a sexual act committed against someone without that person’s freely given consent. Sexual violence includes the followings:
• Completed or attempted forced penetration of a victim
• Includes unwanted vaginal, oral, or anal insertion through use of physical force or threats to bring physical harm toward or against the victim.
• Completed or attempted alcohol or drug-facilitated penetration of a victim. This includes unwanted vaginal, oral, or anal insertion when the victim was unable to consent because he or she was too intoxicated (e.g. unconscious, or lack of awareness) through voluntary or involuntary use of alcohol or drugs.
Sexual violence isn't just a “women’s issue.” Men and women play a significant role in its prevention. Acknowledging sexual violence as a community-wide problem that impacts all persons regardless of gender is vital to preventing sexual assault.
The goal of sexual violence prevention is simple, and that's to stop it from happening in the first place. The solutions, however, are just as complex as the problem.
Preventing sexual violence requires comprehensive prevention strategies that address factors at each level of the social ecology—individual, relationship, community, and society.
Prevention or alluring of sexual violence needs to begin in early childhood and continue for a full lifetime. Teaching skills to prevent violence starts with learning empathy for others, communication skills and problem solving. It involves promoting healthy sexual behavior through sex education focused on respect for self and others, communication and consent.
Due to our concern for human, here are few list of steps in alluring sexual violence:
1. Stay alert and aware: The very first step for every form of danger avoidance is to Know where the exits are if you are in a building. In crowded places such as nightclubs, churches, mosques or event grounds, always let someone know where you will be. Do not go to isolated places in a building, if you must go, take a friend. Always turn around and look at whoever may be behind you.
2. Do not hide a spare key in obvious places such as under the mat, in a potted plant, in a fake rock or on the doorsill, etc: Residence hall students should keep their room keys in their possession at all times. Do not leave door keys hanging in locks or laying out in plain view of others. Even as a guy, I have mastered the habit of locking myself in my room when alone, just for privacies. So Always lock your doors after you enter your residence, hall, room/house/apartment and also when you leave.
3. Know your sexual limits: In your relationship, there is a great need to know your limits, that's because What you want (sexual violence avoidance) is critical, and you need to know what that is. Be assertive about your limits. You have the right to say “NO.” Communicate your desires with your partner. Communication leads to stronger and more fulfilling relationships.
4. Rape or sexual violence can occur when one or both individuals are under the influence of drugs or alcohol. So Set limits on the consumption of alcohol: Be aware of “Date Rape” drugs. The drugs (Rohypnol, GHB) are odorless and tasteless and can be easily slipped into soft drinks, juices or alcoholic drinks undetected. Do not leave your beverage unattended or accept something to drink from someone you do not know well or trust.
5. Don’t be afraid to “make waves” or hurt someone’s feelings if you feel they are threatening to you: In a relationship, if you feel threatened, it is far better to run and avoid being a victim of sexual violence. It is Better for you to have just few minutes/hours/days of social awkwardness and embarrassment than to go on with life in the trauma of sexual assault.
6. Do not wear skimpy, too attractive or tempting clothes: This is so important, as to the fact that rough dressing attract wrong deeds, so in order to be sexually safe, there is a great need to dress decently and be of godly character, characters which shows you to be of the most high God.
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