THE RELEVANT HUSBAND/FATHER - BY DR. HESPEY

THE RELEVANT HUSBAND/FATHER

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

First Of All, Before I Start This Write Up, I Will Like To Appreciate All The Wonderful Husband/Fathers Out There. I Bless The Name Of The Lord For Their Lives & How They've Been The Best Among Their Peers.
Now Let's Start, One Thing That Comes To My Mind As The Father's Day Celebration Of The Nigerian Baptist Convention Comes Closer Is That: "What Really Is Being A Husband/Father Means"? "What Significant Role Is The Role A Husband/Father Plays In A Home"?
That Is Why I Am Coming Up With This Write Up. In My Course Of Study, I Discovered That Many Youths Rush Towards Being A Husband, But Neglect Being A Father & They Know Not Is Relevancy.
What You Must Note As A Single Guy Is That: Being Called A Husband/Father Isn't Just A Title For A Male. It Is A Name That Carries Responsibilities. And One Major Fact Is That Being Called A Husband/Father Isn't Just The Ability To Impregnate A Lady.
In A Just Concluded Research Of Mine, I Learnt That Being A Husband And A Father Are Perhaps Two Of The Most Important Roles Any Male May Have In Life, So It's Completely Normal To Want To Put Your Best Foot Forward.
Husband Means Houseband Which Comes In For Of A Circle Or A 4 Pillar Apartment; A Husband/Father Is A Band That Binds The House Together.
And According To Godliness, A Godly Husband Is A Priest, A Provider And A Protector. As A Priest A Relevant Husband/Father Subjects Himself To Christ And Opens The Word And Leads His Family To Christ Through Daily Family Worship At The Family Altar.
Being A Relevant Husband/Father Is Never Easy, Especially For Those Outside Christ's Dwelling Place.
To Be A Relevant Husband/Father, The First Thing You Need Is God. Then After That, Start By Showing Consideration For Your Family And Learning To Communicate With Them More Effectively. Remember That To Take Good Care Of Your Family, You Must Take Care Of Yourself, So Implement Positive Lifestyle Choices That Support Your Health And Well-being, Too.
Just Yesterday, In A Public Bus On My Way To Lagos, A Man Beside Me Said: "What's My Relevancy, If I Claim To Be A Father, But Doesn't Have Time For My Home"?
He Works In Lagos, But Resides In Ogbomoso Because Of His Family, He Travels On Daily Basis & Still Meet His Family's Need.
So To Be Relevant As A Husband/Father, You Need To Show Interest In Your Spouse And Kids No Matter What You Go Through. It’s Common For Many Families To Fall Into A Common Pattern Of Only Discussing Things Like The Kids’ Grades, Bills, Household Repairs, And Who’s Picking Up Whom From School Or Anywhere, You Need To Strike A New Chord When Communicating With Your Spouse And Kids By Adding Some New Topics To The Conversation Asides What's Compulsory For You As A Husband/Father.
Another Thing Is That, To Be A Relevant Husband/Father, You Must Also Be A Role Model And Practice What You Preach & Teach. But Don’t Expect Your Children To Follow Your Advice If Your Own Behavior Goes Against It. Hold Yourself Accountable For Meeting The Same Standards That You Set For Your Kids And Family. What I Have Come To Learn Is That, A Relevant Husband/Father Doesn't Lie In Front Of Their Kids. What They Do In Every Case Is To Show Honesty & Be Straightforward.
Few Bible Passages Lay Emphasis On The Role Of A Relevant Husband/Father.

According To The Book Of 1 Corinthians 7:1-40, The Deduced Part Of Relevancy Says: "A Relevant Husband/Father Is A Man Who Is Legally Married, And Take Care Of The Conjugal Rights Of His Family.

1 Timothy 3:2 Spokes Of A Relevant Husband/Father As An Overseer That Must Be Above Reproach, The Husband Of One Wife, Sober-minded, Self-controlled, Respectable, Hospitable And Able To Teach.
So To Be Relevant As A Man, You Have Lots Of Role To Play & There Are Rules Guiding Your Relevancy. Be The Right Comforter & Supplier For Your Home, That's Where Your Relevancy Starts As A Husband/Father.
I Pray The Lord Will Help Us All.
Happy Father's Day In Advance.

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DR. HESPEY (2018)

MULTIPLE EX AVOIDANCE - BY DR. HESPEY

MULTIPLE EX AVOIDANCE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

Let Me Start This With A Brief Definition Of The Word "EX".
I Define "EX" As An Act Of Either Planned Or Unplanned Break Up That Occurs In A Courting Relationship And Even In Marriage.
But The Question That Comes To My Mind After Any Break Up Is That: MUST WE HAVE MULTIPLE EX BEFORE SETTLING FOR ONE?

For Those Who Can Understand This Write Up, Get It Clear: IT IS NOT MANDATORY FOR YOU TO HAVE AN EX OR MULTIPLE EX.

As A Young Counsellor, I Feel Hurt A Lot Whenever I See A Good Relationship Taking Another Dimension, But Just As I Was Ruminating On It, I Realized That Most People Only Knows How To Give Birth To Relationships, But Doesn't Know How To Keep Such Relationship Even After Lots Of Effort Towards It’s Creation.
Therefore, I Think It Is Necessary For Me To State Ways On How You Can Avoid Having Multiple Ex.
As A Guy If You Love A Lady & You Are So Sure You Are Been Led By The Spirit And The Love Is Genuine, Then Maintaining It Shouldn’t Be A Problem For You.
According To My Research, One Of The Major Reason That Brings About Having Multiple Ex Is The LACK OF THE SPIRIT OF DISCERNMENT. When You Lack That Spirit, You Will Never Know What's Going To Work Out Well For You And What's Not Going To Work Out Well.
So The Very First Thing Is To Be Able To Know What God's Will Are Concerning Yourself As A Whole.

SECONDLY, If You Must Avoid Having Multiple Ex, Then PRACTICE SEXUAL ABSTINENCE, Avoid The Act Of Pressurizing Your Partner To Do Things That Are Against Their Will. Let’s Assume You Are The Rough Guy Who Want Sex Before Marriage, And She Doesn’t, Its Certain You Will Lose Her. Losing Her Has Now Given Your Chances Of Having Multiple Ex A Grade.
And For Every Good Relationship, The Act Of Listening Must Be Cultivated, When You Fail To Listen, The Chances Of The Grade Keep Multiplying And With Time, It Will Start Rising Exponentially.

THIRDLY, I Believe Everybody Knows That Communication Is Very Essential, It Goes A Long Way To Remind That Guy/Lady, That You Are Thinking About Him/Her. But What Do You Think Will Happen When Communication Cease? So Be So Sure You Finalise How You Both Prefer Your Communication Skills To Be Handled.

FOURTHLY, The Act Of Being Too Demanding & Ruling Is Likely To Bring A Stop To Your Relationship. Avoid Allowing Your Will To Be Done At All Time. A Relationship Where You Want Your Words To Always Rule Will Diminishes The Love You Are Both Sharing, And As Time Goes On, If Not Taken Care Of, You May Lose Him/Her And Have Another (Which Means She Now Become An Ex).
Do You Know That As A Guy When A Lady You Claim You Love Sees You As An Opposer Of Her Goals & Objectives, This Can Bring A Stop To The Love She Have For You And Hereby Increases Your “having Multiple Ex” Grades. A Girl You Claim To Love Needs To Be Accepted Whichever Way She Is, Just Like The Word Of One Of My Inspirer (Revd. Sam Adeyemi) He Said And I Quote; You Are Actually Created To Change Some Things. I Want You To Note The Words “Some Things” Which Means You Are Not Being Created To Change Everything. So Bringing The Ability Of “Things Changer” To Your Relationship May Rule Out That Relationship.

To My Beautiful Queens & Princesses, You In Turn Have A Great Part To Play In Maintaining A Relationship, If The Love Is Real.
Lots Of Respect From A Lady To A Guy Keeps A Relationship & Extend Its Existence, If Probably You Notice He Is Angry, Don’t Be In A Hurry To Find Out What Is Wrong With Him At That Instance, Give It Time, Especially If He Is The One Without Temperament.
The Major Thing I Want You To Know Is That: A Nagging Girlfriend Will End Up Being A Nagging Wife, All Sort Of Nagging Won’t Lead Any Relationship Rightly, It Will Just Bring A Stop To It If Not Controlled.

The Message Above About The Ability To Change Things Includes You Ladies As Well, Just As It Won’t Be Of Any Help To A Guy Who Want To Change One Thing Or The Other From His Girlfriend, It Won’t Be Of Any Help Either To Any Lady Of Such Too.

As A Lady, When You Fail To Contribute Positively To Your Relationship, It May Lead To Break Up And Exs Will Start With Both Sides. Contribution To Relationship Isn’t All About Money, What I Believe Is That Words Alone Can Keep Things Going.

And Lastly: This Is Meant For Both My Kings & Queens.
Many Still Don’t Know Or Fail To Recognise The Presence Of Prayer In All Things Until Those Things Go Wrong. When Things That Can Bring The Issue Of “having Multiple Ex" Comes You Way, You Can Always Do The Fightings In Prayers.
As A Guy/Lady, You Aren’t Suppose To Fight And Argue With Your Partner, The Next Thing You Ought To Do Is To Pray For Him/Her, Pray For His/Her Heart And Every Angle Of His/Her Life That Needed To Be Changed.
Above All Put God In The Center Of Your Relationship, And There Is No Way You Can Lose.

Thanks for reading!!!

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© ODERINDE TAIWO JOEL

    DR. HESPEY (2018)