Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry: April 2018

Sunday, 22 April 2018

READINESS FOR MARRIAGE - BY DR. HESPEY

READINESS FOR MARRIAGE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

As A Student, I See Great Need For Preparation Against Anything, Preparation For Examinations Is An Act That Get One Ready For A Better Result And Pace In The Future.

So Bringing This Perspective Into Marriage, The Requirements Of Marriage Seems Missing In Most Of The Singles That Rush Towards Marriage This Days. Marriage Require Patience & Careful Readings Before It Can Be Walked Up To.
Marriage Requires Lots Of Patience, And Preparation Is A Well Known Equipment For Marriage As Well.

Like One Of My Saying: “PREPARATION & ADEQUATE CARE Makes Things Work The Way They Ought To.
This Is Why When It Comes To Marriage, You Don’t Have To Be Ready Before You Start Preparing For Marriage, And In Fact In A Real Sense, You Don’t Need To Be In Any Relationship Before You Start Preparing For Marriage.

As A Lady, The Hope That The Act Of VIRTUOUS CHARACTER CULTIVATION Gives Or Keep In Hidden For Your Proposed Marriage Is Never Limited.
So If You Are Actually Looking Up To A Day Of Marriage, You Need This Moment To Start Learning How To Be Submissive To Your Dad, Elders And Authorities, Not Because You Have Something To Collect From Them, But Because You’ll Need To Submit To Your Husband After Marriage.
You Need To Cultivate The Habit Of Waking Up Early, This Should Be So, Because What I Have Come To Learn Is That A Good Wife Is A Early Riser. And Most Importantly, The Key To A Good & Successful Marriage Doesn’t Just Have To Do With Looks Alone, It Covers Good Skills In Keeping A Home Through Betterment In Chores & The Nurturing Of Kids, Multi Task And How To Prepare Different Kind Of Food.

I Am Not Married Yet, But The Key That I See Which Holds Most Successful Marriages Around Me Is That The Women Are So Virtuous To The Extent That They Know What Gives Joy To Their Home And They Do It. They Learnt That What Makes A Wife Is Not Just The Wedding Ring. But How She Deals With Things Around Her And Keep Her Home.

Remember The Bible Says “He Who Finds A Wife… Proverb 18:22” Not He Who Finds A Lady Or Woman.
What Every Man Is Looking For Is A Wife, And Wives Are Made From Their Mothers’ House Not In A Man’s House.
So Learn And Prepare For That Man That Will Find You.

And To The Men,
You Also Need To Prepare And Learn.
First Of All, Learn How To Be A Good Brother, Friend, Husband, Father & Leader. Because You Weren’t Created To Have Dominion Over A Woman, And The Point Is That No Woman Wants A Ruler For A Husband But A Leader.
So Cultivate The Habit Of Giving Out Joy Instead Of Sorrow And Be A Cheerful Giver, Because This Doesn’t Limit Joy In Anyway. What Being A Cheerful Giver Does Is That: It Opens More Doors Of Blessings.

As A Man, You Need To Be Resourceful & Equipped. Learn How To Keep Your Home All Day Long By Investment If Possible.
And Lastly, All Things Without The Involvement Of The Creator Isn’t & Can Never Be Complete. So For A Happy Marriage In The Future, Start Now By Building A Very Close Relationship With God And Be Sensitive To Hear From Him When He Speaks.
Like The Common Saying: “If You Rush In, You Gonna Rush Out”, So Never Rush In For What Requires Adequate Preparation In Order Not To Rush Out Of The Divine Making Process Of God.

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DR. HESPEY (2018)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)

Tuesday, 3 April 2018

REASONS FOR SINGLENESS - BY DR. HESPEY

REASONS FOR SINGLENESS

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

"Reasons For Singleness" Is An Article That Comes To My Mind Few Days Ago When Ruminating Most Of The Reasons Few Singles Gives For Not Being In Any Relationship.

It Is Certain That When You Do The Wrong Thing At The Right Time, The End Result Will Be Wrong. And When The Right Thing Is Being Done At The Wrong Time, The Result Can Never Be Right.

So Regarding Relationships, I Discovered That When One Start A Relationship At The Wrong Time, It May Or May Not Be Positive And This Will Likely Affect The Period Of Courtship & Later The Marriage.

So Being Single To Some Extent Seems To Be Very Lovely.

But Before I Proceed, Let Me Define Courtship.
I See Courtship As A Period For Both Man And Woman To Get To Know One Another For A Period Of Time, It Is This Period That Precede Marriage Where Both The Man & Woman Make Use Of The Opportunity To Figure Out If The Relationship Is Going To Work Between Them.
Through Lots Of Findings & Questioning I Have Seen Courtship Extending For A Period Of 3, 4, 5, 6 Years And Above And At The End Of It All, There Was No Joining Of Hands In Marriage.

For Those Who Have It In Mind To Ask, Those Who Have Been Asking & Wanting To Know The Reason Why I Am Still Single, Here It Is.
Though Reasons For Being Single Ought To Be Personal, But As A Relationship Counsellor. I See No Reason Keeping It When I Can Vividly See Lots Of Lessons Other Singles Can Learn From My Reasons.

One Of The Major For Most Singleness Is: To Avoid Long Term Relationship, Long Term Relationship Can Actually Hold One Back—from One's Dreams, One's Potential And One's Goals.
It Can Become Easy To Hide Out In Long-term Relationships; Forgoing Your Independence And Drive To Reach Your Potential And Take Risks In Going For Your Dreams.
Your Partner May Become Stagnant As Well.
As Far As I Am Concerned About Women, I See Them As An Adorable Image That Ought To Be Taken Care Of & Not To Be Taken For Granted.

When It Comes To Relationship Women Seems Not To Have That Much Time On Their Side In Courtship And Should Not Be Held Down By Unfulfilled Promises By Men.
If The Courtship Could Not Go According To Plan, Women Suffers The Most For It After Long Term Relationship In Which, She Would Have Been Used And Resulting In Dumping.
Staying In Long Term Courtship Without Actual Date And Plan For Your Marriage Yet Has Other Side Of The Story Which I Am Not Ready To Be A Failure At.
A Long Courtship Going Nowhere Strips A Woman Of Her Dignity And Self-esteem, Which Should Still Be Maintained.

My Dear Singles, Never Mourn Your Singleness.
Singleness Isn't A Sin Neither Is Singleness A Disease.
Never Allow Anyone To Make You Inferior.
You Can Be Single And Successful.

Singleness Ought Not To Seen As A Problem, And Get This Sure, Marriage Is Not Anybody's Right, Because It Is God That Grants Any Of Them As A Gift.
Another Thing Is That We All Are Not Created For Marriage, But Marriage Was Created For Us.
You Will Not Not Be Sent Out Of Heaven Simply Because You Are Not Married, But It Is For Sure That Marriage Can Take You To Hell If Marry The Wrong Person And Marrying The Wrong Person Is As A Result Of Doing Things In The Wrong Time.
Scientists And Phycologists Has Proof To Us That Marrying The Wrong Person Can Reduce The Life Of Someone By 62%, So It Is Better To Be Single Hoping To Be Married Than To Be Married Hoping To Be Single Again.

So My Dear Singles, Relax And Take Your Time, Use Your Singleness For Your God As Far As This Period Of Singleness Is Concern. And Wait For The Right Time.