PURITY LESSON - BY DR. HESPEY

PURITY LESSON

LESSON 2

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

In the first episode of this article, I made mentioned of PURITY as the WILL of God for everyone being. But for purity to take place, there must be commitment. Not just commitment but COMMITMENT TO BE PURIFIED.

Hopefully, What You Have Been Reading Is Starting To Make Sense To You.

You Have Seen Both Sides Of The Coin. You Have Been Able To Weigh The Options and you Have Hopefully Questioned Sexual Purity: To Be Or Not To Be?

When A Marksman Shoots At Nothing, He Will Hit It Every Time. If He Wants Results, He Must Have A Target; A Goal To Aim At.

I Now Ask You To Make Purity Your Goal.

In All Of My Abstinence Presentations, I Make An Appeal To All Those Present Which Involves Taking A Stand Against The Pressures Of Society And Making The Commitment To Stay Pure Until Marriage.

To All Those Willing To Take A Stand Of Sexual Purity, I Ask you To Sign A Card Reading These Words as a form of COMMITMENT:

“Now That I Know That Sexual Purity Starts With Me Regardless Of My Past, I Make A Commitment To Myself, My Family, My Future Mate, And My Future Children To Remain Sexually Pure Until The Day I Enter Marriage!”

As An Online Friend, Associated With My Group (Abstinence Till Marriage (A.T.M), You Have The Chance To Make This Commitment Today.

I Pray The Good Lord Will Help Us All In Jesus Name!!!

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   DR. HESPEY (2017)

(Author of Building The Godly Youth)

COMMITMENT - BY DR. HESPEY

COMMITMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP

STEP 2 TO COMMITMENT

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

In my research towards REAL COMMITMENT, I disvovered that after LOVE, LOYALTY TO EACH OTHER AND THE RELATIONSHIP is the next key that must be implemented in a relationship.

Some couples see this as the only commitment needed within a successful relationship, it isn’t a stand alone commitment, but it still remains an ultimate commitment.

Any commitments made with the absence of loyalty will appear to be nothing but hollow, broken promises. What if your partner has hinted, or even made it obvious that they have known other partners better than they know you.

This could be an admission of not being sure about the depth of the relationship or a criticism of your role and actions, prompting the outspoken comparisons. If he/she has talked about, or admitted wanting to get to know other different partners better, this issue needs to be addressed to discover what has instigated these comments and desires.

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   DR. HESPEY (2017)

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COMMITMENT - BY DR. HESPEY

COMMITMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP

STEP 1 TO COMMITMENT

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

In this first step, I will like to talk on LOVE AND RESPECT. In every relationship (be it friendship or intimate relationship), this is the very first thing that surpasses all things. With LOVE as the foundation of everything, it means the presence of the only living God.

For each other and your individual philosophies on life and love.

Ignoring your partner’s hopes and dreams just because they may differ to yours or trying to cancel or absorb someone’s personality is neither love nor respect.

A progressive growing of love and respect between two people sharing their lives but retaining their individuality is more healthy and fulfilling.

Learn to be more RESPECTFUL and sacrifice LOVE in all relationships!!!

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   DR. HESPEY (2017)

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COMMITMENT - BY DR. HESPEY

COMMITMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP

INTRODUCTORY PART

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

As a young relationship counsellor, I discovered that whichever relationship without a mindful act is actually nothing but of a rough path.

So like we all know, COMMITMENT is a state of being dedicated to a cause or activity, with limitations to what one can do. 

I need to let you know that COMMITMENT cannot be a SINGLE MINDED DECISION, with one partner issuing all the rules and conformities, COMMITMENT has to be a mutual agreement of needs and requirements in a future you want to share together, with commitment levels you present to each other open to compromise and discussion.

Pre-conceived ideas or fears about commitment is understandable and is essentially preparing you to understanding the difference between promise and commitment.

Assess and judge the relationship's progress with an honest appraisal before you attempt to discuss any commitments or the future of the relationships development.

Only then can you have the desired deeper level of the relationship and share honest and fulfilling commitments to each other and nurture the relationships values.

As far as I am concern, I see COMMITMENT as a pathway in a relationship that is mutually acceptable to both aspirants and at levels that you can both honor and fulfill.

So watch out for the incoming tips on it. 

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   DR. HESPEY (2017)

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PURITY LESSON - BY DR. HESPEY

PURITY LESSON

PART TO GODLINESS

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

PURITY LESSON is something that needs to be examined and discussed about. Because When People Think About What SEXUAL PURITY Is, They Come Up With Ideas Of Rules And Regulations, Things That You Can’t Do.

What Most People Fail To Realize Is That Sexual Purity Is Not About What You Cannot Do, But Instead It Is About What You Choose To Do.

According to 1 Thessalonians 4, it is being noted that SEXUAL PURITY is very important and a priority to holiness & godliness. In this chapter, we were all being urged to santify ourselves and abstain from all forms of sexual immorality. Not just because its of our good alone, but because IT IS THE WILL OF GOD.

So to me as a counsellor, I want us all to see sexual Purity as an OBSCURE GOAL That Must Be Attained. Lets make it an Active Choice Every Day of our lives.

Verse 7 of that chapter said: For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness, in purity & in godliness.

What you must all know is that Sexual Purity doesn't just talk about SEXUAL INTERCOURSE alone, it therefore Applies To Both Our Actions And Our Attitudes.

It Is The Active Choice To Refrain From Sexual Activity Outside The Bonds Of Marriage and before marriage.

Sexual puriry Is The Decision To Guard Your Heart And Mind By Not Allowing Impure Thoughts Or Attitudes to Take Over. And it Is an act of Having Faith That We Are Worthy Of More Than Short-term Pleasures, and That There Is Something Better Planned For Our Lives.

Meanwhile, let me tell you this, Sexual Purity as discussed above doesn’t “just Happen.” We Are Human.

Just as the bible talks about tribulations as a compulsory task in the world, so it is for temptation to always show up against sexual purity.

So for those sexual thoughts, you need to fight, you need to make some sacrifices and you Must Have An Active Part In Choosing To Remain Pure.

One of those things that needs to drive us away from those act is the fear of God. Bece in the verse 8 of that chapter, it states that: Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man, you don't disregard me as the writer, you disregard God, who give his Holy Spirit to you.

So as sons & daughters of God, you need To Realize That There Are More Important Things Than Fulfilling Desires that comes from the mind For A Short-term Gain.

My dear readers who must have been a victim of SEXUAL IMPURITIES, You Have A Choice to make.

You Can Choose Today To Remain Pure Until Marriage. Simply because, It’s Never Too Late.

Heaven Rejoice Over One Sinner That Come To Repentance.

Remember.

The Choice Is Yours!

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   DR. HESPEY (2017)

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LESSONS ON DIVORCE - BY DR. HESPEY

LESSONS IN DIVORCE

LESSON I

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

This article is just a one-sided article, it a write up belonging to both the married couples and the singles that are planning towards marriage.

There are few things we all need to know about marriage and the effect of DIVORCE on it. We all need to know that Marriage As A Covenant and a soul tying event. It is being organized by God.

So it Should Not Be Surprising That God Declares, In MALACHI 2:16, "I HATE DIVORCE!"

Now what you must know is the major reason Why He Hate Divorce.

One Reason Is That Marriage Is Meant To Be A Special Covenant Between A Man, A Woman, And Their God who is the one that establishes marriages.

By attending some weddings, I discovered that The Vows Which Bound All Marriages Went Like This:

I, (Groom) Take You, (Bride) To Be My Lawful Wedded Wife.

I Promise And declare this Covenant, Before God And These Witnesses,

å To Be Your Loving And Faithful Husband;

å To Stand By You In Riches And In Poverty

å To Stand By You In Joy And In Sorrow

√• To Stand By You In Sickness And In Health, 

å Forsaking All Others, As Long As We Both Shall Live."

When They Spoke These Words, The Man And The Woman Weren't Agreeing To Provide Some Personal Services Via A Contract That Could Be Terminated If One Of Them Defaulted. Instead, They Were Entering Into A Covenant —the Same Type Of Sacred Obligation That God Made With His Children On Several Occasions, Such As With Noah After The Flood.

Any Covenant—including The Marriage Covenant is A Binding and Weighty Obligation.

I will therefore like to end this part with few biblical references that goes thus:
å Proverbs 20:25 I Read, "It Is A Trap For A Man To Dedicate Something Rashly And Only Later To Consider His Vows".
å Deuteronomy 23:23 Says, "You Shall Be Careful To Perform What Goes Out From Your Lips, Just As You Have Voluntarily Vowed To The Lord Your God What You Have Promised."

Jesus Said That "Every Careless Word That Men Shall Speak, They Shall Render Account For It In The Day Of Judgment" Found In (Matthew 12:36).

So what we must all know is that God Takes The WEDDING COVENANT SERIOUSLY, even when we do not and He doesn't give room for DIVORCE.

Be Mindful Of Breaking Any Covenant in order not to invite God's wrath.

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LESSONS ON DIVORCE - BY DR. HESPEY

LESSONS ON DIVORCE

INTRODUCTORY PART

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

The rate of wrong pre-marriage perspectives and the wrong way out led to the compilation of this article. Because as a young minister, what I discovered is that in Our so called CULTURE Today Many people See DIVORCE As A Positive Solution To Any troubled Marriage.

What I actually want us all to know about marriage & few troubles within it is that in whichever circumstances in marriage, "DIVORCE IS NEVER A SOLUTION, BUT AN EXCHANGE OF PROBLEMS."

In A More Personal Way, NOVELIST PAT CONROY Said Of His Own Marriage Break-up, he said "EACH DIVORCE IS THE DEATH OF A SMALL CIVILIZATION."

In my personal interview from people of such cases around, one Woman said, "OUR DIVORCE HAS BEEN THE MOST PAINFUL, HORRID, ULCER PRODUCING, AGONIZING EVENT YOU CAN IMAGINE.

She Said, I Wish I Could Put On This Piece Of Paper For All The World To See, A Picture Of What Divorce Feels Like. Maybe Her Picture Would Stop People Before It's Too Late."

In this article, we will examine what DIVORVE is, and how to avoid them.

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   DR. HESPEY (2017)

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REASONS TO JUST SAY NO & CHOOSE SEXUAL ABSTINENCE - BY DR. HESPEY

REASONS TO JUST SAY NO & CHOOSE SEXUAL ABSTINENCE

EPISODE 4

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

In this recent day, there are some things of which I discovered that SEXUAL ABSTINENCE offers, if practiced. One of them is that SEXUAL ABSTINENCE MAKE YOU MORE FREE TO ANY CHOICE OF QUESTION THAT HAS TO DO WITH STAYING OR LEAVING A RELATIONSHIP.

This reason why this is so is because exual relationships have the power to strongly unite two people, and can prolong an unhealthy relationship based on physical attraction or the need for security.

In a SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP, A person may feel "TRAPPED" in a relationship that they would like to end, but they can’t find their way out and it will be a burden to them.

A person who is not having SEX can more easily break the emotional bond to the other, because there has not been such powerful intimacy on the physical level.

Moreover, if the woman gets pregnant, both partners do not feel as free to decide whether to GET SEPARATED, GET MARRIED, go to WORK, and so on.

BE ABSTAINABLE!!!
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SUCCESSFUL & MEMORABLE COURTSHIP - BY DR. HESPEY

SUCCESSFUL & MEMORABLE COURTSHIP

(PART IV)

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

One of those things that is very easy to use as a poison for an existing courtship is DISHONESTY. This is why BEING HONEST TO YOURSELVES is recommended as a key to a successful courtship.

A relationship built on lies is a relationship built on a sandy soil. And as time goes on, it will collapse. Because nothing last forever especially when lies are involved.

A “preacher” once woo her partner through lies in their period of courtship but, regretably, a year after their wedding, the marriage collapsed.

So to have a successful courtship, courting partners must be HONEST to themselves at all costs in all their dealings with each other.

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SUCCESSFUL & MEMORABLE COURTSHIP - BY DR. HESPEY

SUCCESSFUL & MEMORABLE COURTSHIP

(PART III)

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

In a research, I discovered that BREAKING EVERY SOUL TIE in a courtship is one of the perfect way to make your courtship successful & memorable.

To have a successful courtship, you must be prepared to break up any relationship you have earlier established with any other party that is no more on the GO.

This is because when you maintain two or more relationships at a time, You put demands on your emotion and spirit. And this is the same as FLIRTING or LASCIVIOUSNESS.

As a medical practitioner, I will describe such relationship to be a CANCER to the success of your COURTSHIP and FUTURE MARRIAGE.

To do this, you must pray well and be ready to stand for one person only.

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SUCCESSFUL & MEMORABLE COURTSHIP - BY DR. HESPEY

SUCCESSFUL & MEMORABLE COURTSHIP

(PART II)

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY

In the first part of this topic, I mentioned being AVAILABLE as the very first step to a successful venture in relationship. But when you are available, there are some thing you need to implement during that process.

So in this second part, BEING OF SERVICE TO EACH ANOTHER is the next key to whatever thing that needs SUCCESS:
So in order to have a successful courtship, courting partners must be ready to be of service to each other. They must be ready to know each other’s needs and make sacrifices in solving them. 

These services may includes:

Caring for each other,

Spending good time together with godliness as the motive, Praying together for each other, and doing whatever (God's willing things) that will bring joy & happiness to each other within the period of courtship and during marriage. 

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    DR. HESPEY (2017)

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(Founder of Godly Relationship & Advocate Ministry)