THE URGE FOR RELATIONSHIP AT TENDER AGE

WRITTEN BY DR. HESPEY
This days, I see no reason why a very young girl should be bothered about a relationship, especially when the time isn't right. Now, the question is: Why are young people so strongly motivated to have relationships?
What I discovered from a landmark paper by psychologists Roy Baumeister and Mark Leary was that it’s because of a fundamental “NEED TO BELONG.”
The “BELONGINGNESS HYPOTHESIS” states that people have a basic psychological need to feel closely connected to others, and that caring, affectionate bonds from close relationships are a major part of human behavior.
My dear little girl, what you need to know is that relationships are one of those things that can be really good for you, or really bad for you, depending on who you’re in a relationship with or when you started the relationship. And note that a TOXIC relationship can get you killed at its worst. Meanwhile, a healthy partnership can help you achieve your career goals and to have a better family life, and get stability.
The fact is that many societies are taught that a woman’s ultimate goal in life is to be married. And you know what, if that is your ultimate goal, that’s fine.
well my dear young lady, I'm happy that you are growing up, dressing well, seeing some adults with their boyfriend/girlfriend and you like it, wishing to have someone with you as well
You may probably have been watching movies and you think love and relationship is really sweet the way it been acted in the movies. And perhaps, many guys may be telling you, you are looking beautiful, you look sexy and the rate at which guys propose to you is high.
Note it my dear, there are some things you need to know, relationship is much more than just being beautiful or be surrounded by guys. You need to wait until the time is ripe for you and don't be so bothered about relationship.
Those guys who come to you for a relationship at your tender age already know that you don't know anything about relationship, and all they want is just to use you and dump you.
They may probably want to have a taste of you since you are still fresh.
Don't be so carried away my dear when a guy utter the sentence "I LOVE YOU". Instead keep yourself holy, keep yourself away from relationships. Forget those guys whether teenagers like you or adult asking you out and promising you heaven and earth.
When the right time comes, you will meet the man of your dream, your husband will be very happy to see you as a virgin and God almighty will surely reward you for keeping his words.
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DR. HESPEY (2017)
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